Does your SO have AS characteristics?

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For those of you with a significant other, do they have AS characteristics/are also AS?

I was a bit frustrated when I was trying to explain my social difficulties to my SO, since he kept saying "But I'm like that, too!" We eventually figured out that he has some AS characteristics, but it's highly unlikely he's on the spectrum.

Even though he's not on the spectrum, I find that those characteristics make it easier to relate to him and for him to understand me; particularly the parts of me that don't really make sense to a whole lot of other people. I began dating him long before I found out that I'm on the spectrum, but I really wonder if that helped us 'click'.

So does anyone else have an SO with AS traits?

My main partner is inclined to intensely hyper-focus on his obsessions...He has odd social issues...which have caused him to have difficulties with his friendships and personal reltaionships. He has pretty severe executive dysfunction...He has a very high iq, and is very childlike for his age...He has sensory issues...and other things that are in common with people on the spectrum....BUT he scores NT on AS tests...lately, he has admitted that he suspects himself to have PDD-NOS...but he thinks that that and all lables are just silly.

My other partner (i have 2) is undiagnosed but has many characteristics of a more "classic" aspie...(as I would understand one to be)...

Well, I am single at the moment. However, 3 of my four serious/moderately serious relationships have been with people who had numerous spectrum characteristics.

In order, beginning with most recent:

1) Diagnosed ADHD, OCD, Bipolar, Eating Disorders: also had special interests, aversion to touch and had trouble expressing her inner emotional state

2) Diagnosed ADHD and OCD: also had a father who is probably an undiagnosed Aspie. Her personality more closely resembled a slightly awkward hyper-intellectual

3) As far as I know, had no official diagnosis of any kind. She did have an autistic brother and first cousin. She did have special interests, empathized more strongly with animals than with people (and generally didn't like people), had OCD characteristics, some issues with change, was a toe-walker and had (in retrospect/from photos) fairly AS-ish facial expressions and mannerisms.

I have believed her to have been a shaddow Aspie for quite some time (she was much more socially addept than I, and, it seems that, being from an autistic family, someone would have picked up on it if she was clinically significant). However, as I meet more high-functioning/mild aspies, I am starting to wonder if she actually had very mild aspergers.