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23 May 2009, 11:24 pm

There are a few songs in my collection that when I put them on I feel better about what I am going through, whatever that is, be it a bad day at work, or everything feeling like it is going wrong, or if I have had some bad luck things happen in a row.

I like listening to music, but it's not like it is magical or anything. Sometimes I wish it was though :-)

Does music make you feel better when you're going through a rough patch?



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23 May 2009, 11:31 pm

music distracts me hugely and I absolutely cannot focus on anything if there is any music in the background. I've been able to throw away my speakers even though I have a digital music collection because that's just the best and wisest thing for me to do. (if i am going through a rough patch i will generally try and do something to solve the rough patch, rather than sit listening to music...isn't that how we get out of the rough patch? not sure if that's what you mean.)

but music is very emotive for me. If I had nothing to do in the world, I'd love to listen to it all day. (the same song, generally). I cry to songs very easily. i am also a singer of various styles, and my fiance is a graduate in Music (Composition), plays various instruments, and teaches one of them commercially.

Music is fantastic, but for me it's so emotive and attention-grabbing that it's actually quite dysfunctional and unhelpful most of the time (since most of the time I don't have "nothing to do").

did that make sense? haha.


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23 May 2009, 11:44 pm

Music is an intrinsic part of my ASD management. I am using an Ipod whenever i go out nowadays and my stimming and meltdowns have reduced phenomenally. it is good. i love music. I am incredibly sensitive to its transformative capacities.



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24 May 2009, 2:03 am

music is part of my routine....I can't leave the house without my mp3. I actually get really anxious and uncomfortable if I don't have it with me. Sometimes my headphones snag on something or I drop my mp3 and my headphones get pulled out of my ears. This for some reason, is excruciating for me. The interuption of a song I like, even for a few seconds, can piss me off so much I can't move for like 10 seconds. It's helps me concentrate also. Lately when I've been drawing, I've been putting the same song on repeat for up to 4 1/2 hours at a time. Also, I'm synethesiac. When I hear music I involuntarily visualize colors, shapes, textures, and patterns. It's actually quite rare for someone on the spectrum (1 in 10,000). For NT's though 1 in 23 are synethesiac. So to answer your question, yes music is a very big part of my life and it can be theraputic or cause small meltdowns. Go figure.



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24 May 2009, 2:33 am

When I'm by myself or in the car, music seems to help me. I can't stand using headphones, though. Hate the feeling, and don't like losing my situational awareness. I can never feel comfortable enough to be that detached. I love my music, though, and love the 5.1 system I have on my computer.


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24 May 2009, 2:45 am

At the risk of sounding hhyperbolic I honestly feel that music helped save me. As an angry depressed teenager who refused to soeak to anyone about what was going on in my life, I found not only a companion but a voice in the music and lyrics of others. To this day music more the anything else helps me to regulate and understand strong emotions that I sometimes feel unable to deal with. There are songs that, although they are favorites, I will not share with others simply because of how personal they fee l for me.


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24 May 2009, 3:54 am

Music that I choose, that is the same as or meshes with the music in my head, soothes me tremendously. Music that clashes is ... unpleasant. The absolute worst is when people start and stop a piece of music. Background music makes it just about impossible for me to focus on a conversation, even if it's just someone humming or tapping out a beat.

So it very useful, but I have to be careful with it.



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24 May 2009, 5:10 am

Background music (or any other noise) while I'm trying to talk to someone is BAD. I can't separate the noise and I'll just end up hearing a waterfall.
Music in itself is GOOD, though. I love music. I also play several musical instruments myself.



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24 May 2009, 6:03 am

LosFrida wrote:
At the risk of sounding hhyperbolic I honestly feel that music helped save me. As an angry depressed teenager who refused to soeak to anyone about what was going on in my life, I found not only a companion but a voice in the music and lyrics of others. To this day music more the anything else helps me to regulate and understand strong emotions that I sometimes feel unable to deal with. There are songs that, although they are favorites, I will not share with others simply because of how personal they fee l for me.


This is exactly what I feel too. Thank you so much for your post.



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24 May 2009, 7:52 am

Growing up, I think music saved me without me realizing it. I grew up surrounded by music, playing the piano and the violin, and just completely captivated by the world of sound that surrounded me (I could always hear things others took no notice of). I think I was given more social allowances than others (particularly by adults) because musicians are sort of accepted to be a bit "off" from "normal" people. That is, I was able to sort of hide my weirdness behind the musician label. While I had some social problems (and still do a bit), somehow I have been forgiven for them. I think this is one of the main reasons I have never been prone to depression or anxiety.

I did not know about Asperger's until 3 weeks ago.


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24 May 2009, 8:16 am

Life wouldn't be worth living without it.


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24 May 2009, 8:25 am

I've found myself using it increasingly in the last year to manage. I listen to it every day now, whereas before I wouldn't for months at a time.



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24 May 2009, 8:31 am

in short, yes music helps me tremendously..
Plato had many ideas about the benefits of music, so i think we can safely say it's nothing new..
Still music is as important as ever, to me at least.
It's a shame so many "artists" corrupt music, but then they're probably NT lol



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24 May 2009, 8:34 am

Music works wonders for me. It's an intrinsic part of my inner world, the bubble that cuts me off from everything that's going on around me. When I'm at home alone my headphones are never off. It's a great way to escape that I really couldn't do without.


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24 May 2009, 11:04 am

Music I haven't heard before tortures and imprisons me until I can hear the new song over and over again about 700 times or so. Then it's great!



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24 May 2009, 12:22 pm

LosFrida wrote:
At the risk of sounding hhyperbolic I honestly feel that music helped save me.


Not hyperbolic at all. Same goes for me too. Couldn't live without it.


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