Dependent Personality Disorder...

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Can anyone relate to this type of behaviour?

I really doubt that I have this disorder, but I do sort of wonder if I could really take care of myself on my own for very long without having some sort of major issue come up. My mother helped me out a lot so that I could remain self sufficient, but now she is dead. My husband more or less has stepped in and "cares" for me. I am capable of working, but I think that more of my issues are explained by traits commonly associated with AS. I met and married my husband a few years before my mother died, so I haven't really had to "try" to make it alone. I guess that is why I don't know if I can do it or not......

i didn't read through properly as i can't concentrate atm, but this sounds quite like me..

Pretty much the same with me. I don't know if it would qualify as having a disorder if one genuinely has problems with certain life skills. I would think there would be a difference between someone who could take care of themselves, but for whatever reason psychologically they believe they can't. You're not supposed to be able to qualify for a diagnosis of AS unless you have significant trouble with at least one of 3 major areas of life. I guess that it wouldn't make sense to me to get a further diagnosis of DPD, because you have difficulty.

I have often wondered how I'd fare completely on my own. I don't have the support of my family (they're currently not speaking to me for what reason, I don't know) but I do have the support of my husband. I don't have any trouble being able to make decisions, but there are some things that I do have trouble doing that would impact my family greatly if I were the only one around to take care of those things.

I think I have some of the characteristics, but the "disorder" doesn't fit me entirely.

I agree. Most people will probably not be officially diagnosed with a personality disorder but may have a few characteristics especially since it's linked to Anxiety and Avoidant personality disorder.

Well I definitely can relate to the fear of not being able to take care of myself on my own, but I don't let people take advantage of me even with this fear and don't feel dependent or submissive, just very angry and disappointed with myself. So I don't think I could be diagnosed with this even thought the fear is most definitely there.

There is f*****g way I have DPD. But sometimes I have this paranoia that certain people are trying to give me DPD, or think that others think that I am not fit to make my own decisions and such. Which makes me feel really sh***y a lot of the time.

I agree that not being able to tend to certain areas of life effectively and not "wanting" to tend to your life are really two separate things. You mentioned "wondering how [you] would fare completely on [your] own" and I totally relate to that. My major problem area in life has been employment. I more or less got sucked into the university and stayed there for about 10 years. I am WAY over educated and now have massive student debt, but I have no skills to find work. I had intended to become a professor, but I didn't finish my PhD because I more or less snapped when I learned that my mother was dying. This in turn flung me into a deep depression and I know there is no way that I would be able to function on my own right now. I have a lot of education, but I only have a bachelors degree to show for it. I can't handle the sensory issues that come along with most service jobs and I do not suffer fools very well at all. I would have a hard time being "a team player" in most service jobs. Most office environments have been very stressful because there is an expectation that you will "socialize". I just don't know what to do with myself right now so far as employment is concerned. I have been unemployed for about 4 years now and really do depend on my husband for support. My family has encouraged me to return to graduate school to obtain a masters degree because I was able to get a full scholarship. Since I won't have to borrow any additional money, there really isn't much to lose. I just hope that I will be able get some manner of beurocratic position when I am finished. I have a degree in geology and studied surface water and ground water systems in grad school. Hopefully I will be able to add "extensive knowledge of water policy" to that via graduate school and become a little more employable. This time I am going to see if I can get some assistance finding a job because I don't think that I will be able to do it on my own. I just can't seem to network and I am always looking in the wrong places for work. I tend to see this is the most severe issue that I have in life because it really is the difference between being able to make it on your own and being a dependent. I would love to have a nice job to go to everyday that didn't make me feel nervous and self concious and antisocial. That is sort of why I thought being a professor would suit me.... it's okay to be really interested in something and no one really thinks too much of it if you are a little weird.

Sounds a lot like me.

Sounds a lot like my older NT sister.
The probability she is Aspie is growing by the week.

My partner is actually diagnosed with this...or was as a teen..

I exhibit some symptoms but I let others make decisions for me mostly because I'm lazy as hell.

Sounds sort of like my ex.

I find it very difficult to choose between things. The apple or the orange? they both scrape down my throat, they both taste like metal, i'll still feel hungry wether i eat or not. I tend to get people to make decisions for me, with no emotional colouring it's nearly impossible for me to pick between two equal things. I'm certainly not clingy and i don't go with other peoples point of veiw to avoid offending them however, i have a tendancy to push people away even though i know i wouldn't cope on my own.

I have some of the characteristics especially in my 20's and somewhat now. But that did not happen til I was forced to live in a group home,where all of the things that i great at taking care of myself, was "controlled by other people. I was forced into learned helplessness, but at the same time, i was forced to do things and/or get in trouble if I did not show and/or have empathy, sympathy, and/or understanding to the other clients, especially if they were the ones who hurt me.
It is from being "controlled" , when I did not need it and at the same time having people around me lack understanding and be very mean to me where i just gave up.