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...Well , I'm in San Francisco - NOT as " warm " as , certainly , I guess Brits ( listening , Eric Burdon ????????? ) think it will be - I have been stuck in the same situation for YEARS , I have NOTHING , materially , really...

In your situation I can think of two things which can help you out a bit:

music and healthy food.

Music for me often makes me able to think better and if you like the music, the risk of that you would harm yourself in different ways would be reduced several times. It has always worked good for me.

Getting drunk and getting sympathy that way, well... you would never get any sympathy from me from this. None.

Get in touch with a psychologist to get some professional help would also be to recommend other than spending time on this forum b.t.w. (at the same time I'm not saying that you shouldn't post here)

I know how you feel my AS means I am very lonely and isolated a lot of the time i have few friends and little social life.

ASS-P - Eating as healthily as you can, getting exercise, doing things that make you feel good... they all help a little.

But as for making friends, I don't know, I'm terrible at it (apart from the fact that social conversation exhausts me/bores the pants off me/annoys me excessively); I could say that you might meet people if you go to the gym (sorry, an expense I know, just using it as an example), or join a club, but meeting people, and getting on with them/relating to them, are two different things. Joining a club or something could just be seen as a way to occupy your mind with something different for a while, even if you don't really connect with anyone.

Variety in life helps... force yourself to do different things... make time for them... They don't have to cost anything. I've been where you are.

And, no, don't get drunk too much (does help sometimes with the whole social thing though)

Sorry if this is a bit lecturey, I probably do that too much.

i can empathise, i think.. lol yay
i'm also all alone. & it is not pleasant.. while a lot of people want "Alone time" i really want company but alas i'm alone.

Being around people isn't all it's cracked up to be, being alone is ok, it is less stressful and you don't get distracted by crap that seems irrelevant.
Sure being an aspie can mean being a social outcast, big deal it is also a license to feel ok about it.
Having no money isn't all bad, hell I live on a benefit and live week to week but just get by, it means I consume less crap which satisfies me in the area of one of my obsessions
Read, read, read, feed that oversensitive and overactive brain, it's cheap and even the homeless can do it.

peace j

You guys and girls are like a wet weekend in Bognor.......

It works like this, if you can't see a good future years ahead, then look months ahead. If you can;t see how you're going to make it over the next few months, then you look weeks ahead. If you can;t see a way to get through the next few weeks then contract in even more and think about days ahead. Like, see your friend sunday. Work Monday. Watch a film Tuesday.

If you can't get your head around days, then plan what to do with today. Walk to the shop. Get something for lunch. Fix a shelf this afternoon. Watch a game. Write a couple of emails. Go to bed.

Contract your planning to point where you can deal with that part of the future in focus. Then it's a case of one foot in front of another, even if it's just baby steps at first. As things lift up you can raise your head and look a little further into the distance.

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I love the rain, so the first sentence there would seem like a compliment, Dave.

But the rest is actually quite sensible advice.

By the way, glad to see you are coping better now.