Do you worry that you might be a thread killer?

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I seem to a lot, people ignore what I say a lot.

I don't worry about killing threads - I just do. It seems to happen in any forum I participate in. Maybe it's time to stop contributing, because it seems to be a waste of my and others' time. I try to contribute stuff of value, but I guess my communication skills are poor compared to the savvy masses here. Either that or I'm just not suited to any group. I guess I'm just frustrated with my inability to connect on any level. I too have that invisibility issue. I guess it's just how it is for me. Well enough of this, I'll be taking off for now. Glad for the sojourn while it lasted.

Hello awkwardmom and Twolf. I understand where you are both coming from. I've always felt 'awkward' here, my com skills are poor especially lately as post so little these days so got out out of practice. I've never understood the undercurrents that go on here and other forums, they seem pointlessly subtle and also incomprehensible...don't really do the group thing, hate anything 'cliquey'.
If you want a 'home' for a little while post here, but if you decide to leave, I wish you well. I sort of think this is a thread for 'outsiders' all who feel at home here are so

lemon, hia! I'm glad to hear you are happy in your work! Hope you are managing to find the time to do your art too. I'm still having major back problems which stop me doing much but waiting for an op which hopefully will help. Nice to see you here, threadtending

Has anyone heard from Thyme? Hope she's Ok

dunbots...you say something?

I pretty much talk to myself in the threads.
Sometimes it bugs me, but I'm just not one of the cool kids, so I kill threads.

I'm bored.
I'm over eager.
I'm attention starved.
it puts people off.

~shrugs~

akwardmom and twolf,
I don't share the exact same feeling but I guess that is because I'm not really looking to fit in,
I'm more like very interested in the topics people with autism seem to talk about. If someone replies to what I say or not,
is not a question I ask myself very often. I'm too focused on the subjects itself for that.
Also I don't see 'a reply' as a positive sign towards my person and 'no replies' as a negative sign towards my person,
because I often read incredibly interesting posts on which i do not reply (in order to reply i also have to feel the urge 'to add' something myself to the subject which is not always the case)

I do have the same akward feeling on forums for people without autism though, but that is mainly because their topics don't seem to interest me as much and if i reply people seem to oppose themselves to me very much. Like I was once on a forum for photography and got comments like 'what the hell do you mean with this picture' and that quite often. Or on a forum for highly gifted people and their family (i'm family), and for me they seemed to be arguing all the time, I felt that as something very unpleasant.

hey Starr (i'm a little overworked for the moment) I wish you lots of goods with your operation (will write you if things are a bit calmer)

What does you make trying to participate on a forum? Are you interested to find someone like you?
Or is it because you want to talk about things? (hope it aren't 'bothering' questions)

Me I like the connection of people who have the same issues every day, this connection for me is not necessarily personal,
just reading that someone has lived through the same and makes the same kind of analysis of it afterwards, already makes me feel good.
It's only after 'accidentally' talking to the same person at several occasions that I start noticing there is actually a person behind those words, and then after months or years I get to know some of these people a bit more.
(and I even had the luck to meet some of the people here in person)

It happens because threads lose their edge...

In every other forum it's called the "Last Post" game and the objective is to KILL that thread...

So, being a Thread Killer isn't all that bad if that was the aim but...I can see why people get worried over it.

I only get upset when no-one replied to me in a thread that has one post (generally the OPs).

No, this thread is not 'the last post'-thread, there is one though (in the 'off the wall'-part I think)

This thread is actually made for expressing yourself how you feel if you feel like a threadkiller (like someone who posts and never gets any replies and so unvoluntarily ends a thread, or doesn't end it but is ignored by everyone)

And so Star and me had this feeling sometimes but at the same time thought it was also quite relative and we shared this with every one who came along here, in the meanwhile we had a lot of fun here too.

I couldn't have explained it better lemon
Still here after almost four years - well, well. Who'd have thought it would last so long.

Quite some time, isn't it
It also means it's quite a while I've known about autism now, and I'm still glad to have encountered that knowledge!

I have killed whole columns of treads before. Once did in the most active list in a forum with no survivors. TMI, inappropriate, off topic, not sure how, but i manage sometimes. I have no fear of killing this one, it's too strong even for me.