Any Aspies/High Functioning Autistics living on their own?

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I live alone with a couple upstairs for housemates. Mostly it just required me to track what I think of as my social obligations: things like bills, my job, hanging out with someone from work when they offer (even if I'm not -really- interested), etc.. It helps to keep up appearances because after you're done with the required stuff, you can relax and do your own thing for the rest of the day. Plus, having your own space is really awesome.

I've been living on my own with my two sons since Nov. 2007.

I'm on my own with my son. I haven't lived at home since 18 when I went to uni. I'd never go back as my childhood was awful. However, my AS isn't severe enough to impact on living independently (in fact I didn't realise I had it until recently) but I've always struggled with the world.

I've been living on my own for two years now (in dorms for the six years before). I believe the simplest solution is to find an apartment complex. There's less to worry about since they care of most everything for you. I make sure I keep in mind the important stuff (paying bills, not leaving the stove on) and assume the complex will handle any necessary repairs. My goal is to focus on what could go wrong, handle those issues and ignore everything else. This prevents me from feeling too overwhelmed and somehow things haven't fallen apart yet.

I initially left home at 15 which wasn't the brightest thing to do but I felt I had no choice. I learnt a lot of things the hard way which even though it wasn't much fun, made sure I learnt the lessons well. When I was 22 I realised that I couldn't go on the way I had been so I decided to take control of my life. I went back to finish my schooling and went on to University. I'm now married with two children. One is ADHD and the other is an Aspie just like me .

When I look at my life I see all the dumb things I did but despite it all I have achieved so much. If I hadn't gone out and tried I wouldn't have what I have today. The world is a risky, scary place but if you don't give things a try you will never know what you can achieve.

My advice is to have a plan. Work out what you want and what steps you need to achieve in order to make it happen. Also stay right away from share accom / room mates. I found it was better to live alone in a caravan than with others in a share house.

This is my first posting here. It looks as if our age is very different, I'm a senior of 56, married and grandfather of two. But you seem to be making it in college courses, that's better than I had it. I hit a brick wall when I entered Eng. Comp. 1 in college, it seems i couldn't write a descent mistake free paper back then. Anyway I never discovered my AS till I was almost a senior citizen. One must be brave and give their best shot. You may be weak at social skills, but there are opportunities for jobs with less people contact. I have run machinery all my life, it has feed my family till now. But boss is sick with cancer and I may have to branch out myself very soon. Hope this is of some help.

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i wasn't able to get a full-time job & an apartment until i was 28. part of this was the recession of the mid-80s, part of it was my poor interviewing skills, part of it was sheer reluctance to conform. i worked part time prior to this, without being able to guarantee a month ahead of time, & i saved very little.

then for 5 years i worked in a corporate environment (& gave away about half of what i earned). first i lived in a slum apartment, then i lived in an old church that had been turned into a commune. i got used to being cold in the winter & hot in the summer.

i've worked at full-time, but low-paying, bookstore jobs for the 18 years or so since. the environment suits me, & my knowledge can be turned to some use. now i have health insurance, but i didn't for my twenties & thirties & all i can say is, you better take care of yourself in that case. (i had to keep going to work for 2 months with a hernia, till i could get on my wife's insurance for an operation.)

if i lost my job today, i don't know what i'd do, since i have considerable debt & a car that barely runs.

I live with my husband and infant son. I have been on my own since I was nearly 20. My parents found me a place to live on my own and they helped me move out. I lived literally on my own for a year and a half. Though my ex lived with me for several months before I kicked him out.

Then I moved and I lived with my new ex for a month and then we had to move out because he had problems with his landlord and we went our separate ways and had a silent breakup. I lived with my aunt and uncle for seven months and I met my husband and we moved in together three months later after we met. We have been living at the same location ever since.

I have been through four different jobs and am now at my 5th one. I have only been laid off of one of them and have quit the others. One of them ended because school got out and the other I was laid off full time due to the economy and was only used when needed. Then I quit that one. I now work part time and my husband works full time. Maybe someday I will work full time again but not right now. If my husband ever gets too disabled to work, I will return to work full time to support my family and he can stay at home and take care of our kid and live on Social Security and just work part time if he can.

I'm still working at same job with boss with lymphoma. He has had it for about four years now, he probably has no more than two to four years left. I'm now 58 1/2, hope to at least get to 62 retirement. That is if Social Security is still there and this country doesn't go broke. I get O-Epic insurance right now for me and my wife. She has rhuematoid arthritis which is an immune disorder. I have had right hip replaced, left hip needs it, bad neck and lower back vertebrae. Hope luck holds up for a while longer.

I hate living at home, but i also find it really hard living on my own or with another person especially NT's
Though I found I had a lot more freedom living on my own, but got into bad routines and got very badly depressed.
Though having a choice as long as I have someone to keep me company every now and then living on my own would be okay. I am currently living at home again.

I've been living on my own for almost two weeks now. Been managing quite well.....so far anyway. My clothes are clean and I haven't starved to death

I live with my brother whos almost exactly 10 years younger than me. I know the thread is asking for autistics (im HFA) living alone and i almost am really, my brothers there but it's my flat and he's a barely noticeable presence. He's planning on joining the army, when he goes nothing will change.

It's not so bad, we both ignore each other. We're both into using headphones so we don't really intrude on each other. My flats just calm and chilled out 24/7. I am actually pretty good with living with people, just about the worst people say about me is that im not sociable enough and im a little clumsy loud. Neither of which is a problem with where im living and who im living with so all is good.

The flat never gets really gets dirty, it's probably dusty in places but that's np. I have big clean ups every now and then to take care of the kind of thing that builds up. I have routines for washing clothes and etc that seem to work well and i enjoy having showers for waking me up in the morning and the warmth and nice clean feeling after is nice so keeping clean is sorta taken care off without thinking about it.

Food i struggle with, i cant cook to save my life. I cba to make meals for one so im not really dealing with it or getting better, i tend to live on microwave meals, takeaways and eating at my mums. That might change, im gaining an interest in cooking, it just hasn't built up to the point where ill do something about it yet. It's on my mind occasionally though and that is usually the route i go down for sorting my problems out. I'll get there eventually.

I'm mostly on top of paying my bills. I occasionally forget to pay things but im so much better than i used to be that ill not worry about it, im getting there.