All Alone

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Not knowing that I had the difficulty in socializing of Aspies , I just - Well , suffice tio say I'm 48 (almost 49) , no money , no real friends , no place to go , stuck here , sick...

Man,come on ,find something you would like to do.There is always something fun for you.Reading,sports,movies.Donot compare youself to these NTs,you have your life to live.

no place to go, is only true if you've been everywhere
or on a island with no boat.

I'm sorry you're sick and hope you feel better soon. (((hugs)))

How can it take 48 years to know you have a socialization difficulty?

Hopefully good news: unless you're a homeless drug addict you do have some money.

You're not all alone here, ASS-P
I think the positive side in having difficulty socialising means more time for hobbies...do you have any interests (or obsessions?)
I hope you feel better soon.

...Just barely above homeless Not a drug addict.

...Well , I've tried to "live a life" mostly out of hobbies ...No real money , anyhow...

I passed the first fifty years assuming that g*d had it under control. Then reality started to sneak in under the curtains.

The hardest thing to get past, with undiagnosed aspergers, is the basic assumption that everyone else's world works in the same way as mine. For normals, the assumption delivers good results. For aspies, the same assumption delivers a dead end street.

...Still alone ...

I was thinking about you today... Would you like to share some more, maybe it'd help?

Hi, I'm a new member, and I find it appropriate that I stumbled upon this forum first. I'm going to be 48 in a couple of weeks, and I just learned there was a thing called Asperser’s about two weeks ago. I'm just starting the process of getting a diagnosis, but I'm about 99% sure of what they're going to say. I've known for years that I can't make friends, but the thought that it was something I was doing, or not doing, never occurred to me. I've always thought of myself as just like everybody else. But it turns out that there are all sorts of thought processes that other people do that I've never experienced, mostly empathy. Ooops! Mind blindness is very real, and it can make you miss things that you've been looking at for your whole life. As it turns out, it's really easy to take 48 years to learn you have a socialization difficulty.

you could become an alcoholic, not trying to be a prick but maybe then you'd meet people

Hi Mike and welcome! I'm curious to know, what did you think was the problem, then?

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Being alone is not so bad, ASS-P. I am. If I need anyone I visit this activity centre in my community. It is for poor people who are unemployed. I go once a week.

This winter is long, and makes people feel worse. But get outside anyway.

The library is such a neat place, with computers, newspapers, books. And there are people, if you need them.

I volunteer, too, so this is a way of socializing.

But being alone is great, too. You will find your own company is often more preferable to others.

Spring is coming!

Life sucks here too. My bf was my best friend and lover and he's now detaching me for the past three weeks to get rid of me. Because I'm so stupid, I never saw it coming and thought everything was great. didn't see signs if there were any and he never said anything.

He's not calling me at all, etc. We were engaged and had 1.5 years in the relationship. YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY YOU ARE ALONE. These stupid relationships have no guarantees and are a waste of time. I was alone for a long time before I met him and quite content. Being with him this period of time I was never settled and was always uncertain and anxious of things. But I thought he was in it for the long haul.

So now, I'm sitting here, feeling alone and stupid and I'm hurt cause I'm hypersensitive to his rejection. I HATE THIS. Be happy you are alone. Life sucks.

You live in California. How bad can it be??