If this forum is indicative of AS sufferers...

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Try http://www.aspievillage.org.uk/ for meet ups.

People ask questions; not just young people. I have Big Brother and the Holding Company on vinyl; heck, I have Raymond Scott on 33... doesn't make me a better moderator or give me better answers than anyone else, at least in my opinion. You may want to consider the old adage about vinegar and honey to revisit how to best get the results you are looking for.


M.

@spacecadetdave

Pfft.
Point of order: Dude you're being a jackass.

I understand pessimism, and I understand the impulse toward being skeptical. Particularly if there's some kind of self-diagnosis fad, as you seem to be indicating. Moreover, I can understand being impatient with dealing with 19 year olds in the adult-life section.

But, with basis of your skepticism aside, lets take a step back and look at your post:
"Hi, you people aren't good enough, and don't hold merit, so help me find people who are good enough for me while I talk down to you."

I'll give you some advice. Get over yourself.

lolwut? Okay then, right on, man. Later.

Jackass? Quite possibly.


A fad? Do you really not see it yourself? I could show you numbers man, and believe me I am good at numbers and statistics (Can't think why ).

Talk down to people? No. I wanted to avoid talking to people outside of the target demographic altogether. didn't want to talk down - didn't want to talk at all. But the thread was jumped on by everyone other than the ones I sought advice from. Hmmmm. Now where does my frustration come from? Difficult question....


My brain chemistry is a bit better today so I'll try to be more personable, but please remember that this is very difficult for me. When I say "I really don't give a damn what you have to say" it's not because I'm being mean on purpose. It's because I really just don't and am trying to be honest. How come this very common trait of autism spectrum disorders is not understood here? (answers on a post card please)

Is that adage similar to Solon's rule of wisdom?

woswer PLA. I had to really think about that one. You read too much. Or you don't read enough. I forget how it works with "us".

Just because you're AS doesn't give you the right to be rude to people here.

Sounds like you want an exclusive club so long as you get to say who's 'genuine' enough...what are you, a psychiatrist?

I don't want an exclusive club....Trust me... I don't even want to be in your "club".

I am looking for advice from late diagnosed, middle aged - or thereabouts - people in the UK. I have some very specific legal/employment/medical questions which only such people will be able to answer.

But people who are not in this profile keep spamming on the thread and this is what is really annoying me. I see the thread has been updated and think that maybe this time someone with useful information has posted but I open it up to reveal more spam. And you wonder why I get annoyed?

If you have nothing to add to the subject matter of the thread then can you all please start another thread called "spacecadetdave is really rude" and then you can all discuss me to your hearts content and post all your indignation somewhere other than here..

Huh?

maybe this?

I am not in the UK, so I have not done much looking into that... but that link might be of use... might not be... I suppose the worst that could happen is it is of no use to you and you are no worse off than you are now, minus the few minutes of your life spent looking at the link...

On one hand, you started to reply with more civility and sense, but now you're losin it again.

I'm relatively new to this realm, having been diagnosed only a couple months ago @ 28. So no, I'm not aware of diagnosis or self-diagnosis fads yet, I haven't bothered reading into that angle of things. Doesn't interest me so much as other areas.

Let me tell you something about internet forums. When one person asks a question, people often feel a desire to speak up and provide input. When there is a highly specific criteria attached, it may filter out responders somewhat. However, if a reader still feels that their input could be valid, then it's highly likely they will still respond. With this in mind, it is imprudent to expect people to not respond if they don't exactly fit the criteria. Moreover, it's absurd to get frustrated when it inevitably happens.
But perhaps you're just not so experienced with forum cultures, I don't know.

Somewhat similarly, your suggestion about making a new thread isn't realistic either, so long as you continue to be anti-social in this thread. People will respond to your words in this thread by speaking in this thread. It has always worked that way. Putting extra effort(via a new thread) is upon your shoulders. Why should those whom you insult put in extra effort just to flame you? Indeed, if you were less likely to read their flames, it would undercut the point of posting it in the first place. Doesn't make much sense, now, does it?

As for using AS as an excuse for bad behavior, as a middle aged man, I would've expected you to understand that that excuse just doesn't fly in the real world.
Not even among those with the same tendencies.

I'd suggest proof-reading your posts before you hit submit. When you say inflammatory things("Trust me... I don't even want to be in your "club"."), you make off-topic posts nearly inevitable. So it is generally in your interests to chill the f**k out.

Also, if you're willing to make the changes that could salvage this thread, you may as well post your detailed, UK-specific questions, so that rather than worrying about weeding out the people, you can weed out the answers.

Good luck.

Hmm......... I am 53. Diagnosed with atypical autism in childhood. Deaf so I don't own music records.

I don't understand why you are suffering. Or why you want a group. Most autistic people do well in solitary pursuit.

This is the first time I have left the games area, or the getting to know you.

I am really surprised.

Like many aspies, he seems to have a huge superiority complex going on.



Yep, good luck finding that one on Google.

Well, I identified with that. Particularly the "bad survival habits" bit...

I think you need to find a "Get Off My Lawn" forum, there are people here that are of all ages and personalities, most get along fine

Oh hell... I nearly wet my pants when I read this.

I'll try and explain this one again.


No. I do not feel superior. And the fact that you think Aspergers is a reason for someone to feel superior says more about you than it does about me. OK. Maybe not you, but a lot of people who post here. Personally I see this as a curse, a disability and a serious handicap to my life. This thing in my head has destroyed the lives of anyone who has cared about me over the last 4 decades. It is only recently that "it" has been given a name and I need some advice in several very specific areas.

If you view Aspergers as some sort of elitist club then feel free to do so but do not judge me by your own standards please.