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I'm lonely, too. I've spent 1 or more hours daily on WrongPlanet since I found it. So grateful to finally know why I am 'me'. And that there are others. Over the years, if I knew, I could have explained to myself and others why my behavior wasn't what was expected. Looking back, I could have held on to friendships, I think, instead of letting things end, and making things end because I just didn't know how to 'do' relationships. I'm almost 62, and I regret and resent the anger I've felt at myself for doing/saying the wrong thing, for avoiding so much because of fearing I'd do something wrong, or, frequently,being afraid of not belonging, sitting in a corner wishing I'd brought a book to read. I've had my job for 34 years. I have never gone to even one yearly employee dinner; I don't know anyone I could talk to. Specifically, I have nothing to talk ABOUT that interests anyone but me. At long last, though, I finally know why that is. I think you have found the place and the people you've been looking for, Sufi...maybe I have too...Sylkat.

Yep same situation here. Always alone talking with my cats at least they listen.

Any social contact is always akward, Family has forgotten me, or at least avoided me. What friends I do have, well if I'm there it is usually out of pity, and I know it, which makes me feel even worse about having no one.

I know people but all have chose.....no further contact. Not one...... I can go weeks without speaking to a single person and then its, "no I dont need a bag for the milk". or "yes I have a savings card, here" followed by the same conversation a week later

I don't own a cell phone as it would be useless, my home phone never rings, if it does its a salesman or bill collector. I dont have a working doorbell, as that would be just as pointless. If someone is coming over the door is unlocked..and I'll probably be looking out the window like a kid looking for Santa. My Xmas shopping list is the same as it was the last 10yrs. A gift for myself and try to act suprised. this year there wont even be that!


Welcome to WP where theres always something being said and someome is listening

@ Sylkat Welcome to WP.

I still crave contact with someone, but at 63 I know that won't happen in my life. Maybe the saying ' we are born alone and die alone' is true for everyone? Maybe the vast majority of people feel like they have no one who would be their 'bridge over troubled water' but are too afraid to admit it or don't have a place like WP to admit it. I would never say anything to anyone how alone I feel but I can say it here.

At almost 50 I only have acquaintances. There are some I like very much but I don't know what to do to become real friends. How much do I have to phone them, mail them or do I have to meet them regularly and what do I tell them? I really don't know and I'm afraid to pass some unseen boundaries because I know they all have already a very busy social and professional life.
I've one NT online friend who I can tell everything except the fact I've no friends in real life because I'm too ashamed to admit it.

ah, I can't write today. just ditto the other posts. And even though I'm not good at being friendly, I don't want anyone to have to feel they're the only one. write anytime and, possibly take a bit but eventually I'll get back to you.

It is so nice to be able to be honest with someone. Sylkat

Hi, Everyone, It's Monday, when I got up, there was serious evidence that a skunk had been busy on my patio. Ihave dealt with the matter logically, maturely, and competently; I got dressed, hopped a bus, and I'm at an IHOP having breakfast. I shall face The Great Stinking Catastrophe later. Hope y'all's Monday is going better. Sylkat

so is the little guy gone?......is it bad?
w/ any luck no carpet damage.

how do defunctional familys become functional?
my nephew went to iraq today, and didn't get to see him off. now i see it's all my fault, he knows our familys prob.s but i should of at least made more of an effort. he was suppose to tommorow but i just found out it's today

Dear danmac, Very sorry about your family communication situation..when plans changed, it was their responsibility to call you, you can't know without being told. Reading a LOT of posts from Aspies/Auties with dysfunctional families of differing severity...seems to me that being surrounded by toxic people will exacerbate anyone's symptoms. The skunk who visited me at night and had a private party on my patio didn't destroy anything, just ate all my cats' food, and squirted. Rather profusely. Just took a garden hose, time and sunlight...annoying, though, but thanks for asking...Sylkat

You are absolutely right about feeling of loneliness and that is so sad. I have been in similar feeling but now I am having my wife my children to talk with and have fun with lot of funny things. You need to have someone to care for you or you pass your time with him. I am just feeling well now because I am running my own business and have great discounted shopping on weekend with my family from big stores like amazon.