Marykate wrote:
I am sooo glad to see someone else has that problem with people trying to turn what you like to do into something you should make money on. It seems like everything I do, someone says that to me. Art--"sell it" or much worse "get a booth and sell it at an event" Research--"people would pay you to do that" Wallpaper a room "I would pay you to do that in my house"
Talk "you should write a book" --pretty sure that one is code for 'shut up'.
Actually, I'm pretty sure all these things are compliments. They think you are good at what you're doing, and this is how they express it.
Marykate wrote:
Lets take something you enjoy, that you can do alone just to please yourself with no pressure at all, and turn it into something with deadlines, critics, impossible human contact...and even by saying that they have put a thought in our head that messes with us when we do our fun thing.
In writing this I just realized that those people are being totally inappropriate.
No, they are just expressing themselves the way they know how, and I'm sure many, if not most, would be aghast to find out they had stressed you out rather than made you feel good by complimenting you in this way.
Not saying there aren't a-holes out there, but most NTs, like most of us, are actually pretty nice people.
18 Jul 2011, 2:27 am
