Being sad

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Sufi,
I thank you so much for your advice. I did write to her a private message on my second Facebook page which is under a different name. I did take the time to write to her and mention how I felt. While she may have a heart attack about it, this girl did and said some pretty mean things in school. She also acted like a click and acted if I didn't exist even though we were in the same special education and mainstreamed classes together. She and her boyfriend would gossip behind my back constantly about how "Different," I was and how I did things. I caught them doing it one time nearly twelve years ago after doing a good job of putting on an act of being happy to see me and acted friendly and then when they had somewhere to be, I walked into another area and heard then badmouthing me just for waving at her boyfriend.

Good job standing up for yourself and cutting her loose. You should not feel sad or bad about her.

I talked to my counselor about letting go of people like that from the past. They told me not to write nasty letters but to give it a few days until I calmed down to express how I feel. The counselor also suggested that I write fake letters to each person who hurt me in the past and then get rid of the letters.

no, not nasty letters - like you b***h really f*** me and I'm gonna bhlah blah,

Just the I feel ...because... letter. taking care of your feelings.
Fake letters are good if the person is not around or was way in the past or parents or difficulty standing up to them.

I don't always agree with everything my counselor has to say but at least she is not cold like my last one who didn't work out.

As for this former school-mate, she had been nasty to me for years and thought that could walk all over me anytime that she wanted. She also thought she could control one of her ex-boyfriends who was my high school and Jr. High crush at the time by allowing him to have certain friends in their circle. He didn't like me that much to begin with but he tried to put on an act with me and so I was excluded from a lot of things when she was involved. Later, on, however, he wasn't allowed to talk to me or any other women who waved or said hello.

Anyway, I am so glad that she is not in my circle of friends. I like my set of new ones better.