Have you ever resented your gifts/IQ for social reasons?

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I used to resent it; I can't relate to the general population, and I generally find them dull, trying, and a waste of time.

But then I realized... Why would I want to have anything to do with people who I can't relate to in even the most basic way? If they can't deal with the fact that I don't, and won't, dumb myself down for them, I likely don't want to have much to do with them, and the people who do love that I'm quirky and reasonably intelligent, although a fairly small-ish group, more then make up for any "lack".

When I was younger, yes.

But I know that most of those people I used to want to "fit in" with will never experience as much happiness as I do, and that I get to have that happiness because of my gifts/interests/intellect.

For me, it's strictly pragmatic.

My life is easier if I fit in. Work, 2nd+ tier social, etc, those are all simplified.

My 1st tier relationships, I don't change much, other than when dealing with GF's children, parents, siblings.

Ahoy! The only thing I can add here is that society want's what it want's and it changes all the time. Look at how people classified as "nerd's" are running the country and have changed most peoples lives. If people don't adapt and change to be able to function in the society, then what. Like some have said, more people change to fit in than most realize. If you are "gifted" you can find others with the same gift's probably doing the same thing you are to fit in, you never know and you never know where. Crowds and the like are hard for me but I have found some wonderful people and even though we do not talk for what ever reason, I consider them friends. I met one gentleman in a part's store looking at tools, dressed in coverall's. We struck up a conversation about the "toy's" and ended up having lunch after, still laughing and talking about tool's and what you can make with them. The guy turned out to be a wealthy business man who was spot checking his own store, I learned allot about business from some one whom allot of people would have walked away from, so you never know. Cheer's!

I may be generalizing here, but I really resent how a lot of people think Asperger's makes you super-smart with special skills, it really doesn't.

First, and foremost, it is a delay of emotional maturity which causes issues with processing/executive functioning and proper social conduct.

Savants are pretty uncommon, and Aspies by default cannot have low IQ's due to that making them labeled cognitively impaired.

Though it is true that many Aspies may be super obsessed with certain things, this is only positive if the interest is purposeful, and is generally just annoying (read:anime, video games, books).


Anyways...I resent still being a kid when my age peers have learned the rules.

I feel stupid and left out, though now it's more of an adult feeling, because I have more control than I did a few years ago.

Makes it worse.

Yes and no, I'm Dyslexic so have a huge swing on my test scores. On one end (VIQ) 82, the other (PSI) 142 using IQ Index scores. So on one hand I was extremely frustrated that I had to spend more time doing all the reading and writing while everyone else was done and doing other stuff. Then on the other getting so frustrated that people couldnt see what to me seemed so damn obvious. Frustation from both sides.

When I was younger (highschool) I always used to think along the lines of "maybe if I was 'normal' I would get along with people better." So on so forth. It was at the time, a case of most people only wanting to talk to me when they needed help with something. Which I resented a hell of a lot. As I've got older I've started to care less and less about it while starting to appreciate the benefits. For example at work I fixed a support ticket they had been batting around for over six months in less than two hours. I do still yearn to meet someone on the same wavelength so to speak. Unfortunately the majority of people I know aren't exactly the brightest even by average standards.

Maybe life would be easier if I was just average across the board but I'll never know. What I do know however is when I stopped dwelling on things, life slowly started changing for the better.