How do you know if you ever want children or not?

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I hate kids sooooooooooooooooooo much. They are annoying and offer nothing to the world. All they do is cause people to not be able to do anything with thier lives. They yell, argue, be naughty. The world is better off without them.

In case you can't tell, I will never have kids

I've never wanted kids. My friends and family always said "Wait until you grow up, you'll want kids eventually." I'm in my mid twenties and the thought still horrifies me, and I'm pretty sure it will continue to through the rest of my 'childbearing years'. I like other people's kids because they say and do interesting things, they have a different perspective on the world than adults. But, I couldn't deal with the day to day chaos of being a parent. I have trouble keeping my own life organized. I also really don't like the idea of getting pregnant. I need to be totally in control of my body, so having some other thing inside me hijack it for 9 months sounds like a nightmare.

I knew from a young age that I never wanted kids. I had someone tell me when I was pregnant "when you see your own you'll love it". I didn't and felt nothing and gave it up for adoption. I don't like human babies.

Well regardless of if I would want them or not I really doubt I am ever going to be in any position to take care of them......but yeah I don't really want kids anyways.

I wanted children of my own since I was 3 years old and that never changed.
The only reason I don't have them yet is my ex could not have any.
I could not imagine never having kids that would be my ultimate nightmare.

when I was 20, I placed a child for adoption. Don't get me wrong, I love her, but, I am not cut out to be a mother. People always commented and said that I would be bitten by this mythical desire to be a mother, and it never happened. Likewise, he's never felt the natural calling of fatherhood.

My boyfriend is currently saving up for a vasectomy, and while people say that "omg you're young!" we've had our minds made up since 21 that we have no desire to further procreate (especially since our one offspring is a nonverbal autie, and most of his family, himself included is also bipolar). Now if we got the money, good luck on having us taken seriously since we're "STILL YOUNG!!" at 28 (us being in the midwest, they're probably wanting us to either have a boatload of kids or be 40 whichever comes first). This makes me sad. See, if I lived in some place like Sweden, we wouldn't get such a reaction out of people going "ZOMG You must have babies!! You're making a huge mistake, I don't understand!!" like people do here in america. But it makes me sad to know that people here have no faith in the soundness of people's viewpoints in decisions. It's like other people want me to want the same things as them, or want me to be as unsure of myself as they are with themselves and their desires.

And yes, I do have experience around kids. I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews (who are currently aged in a range between 2 and 12) who I do see frequently. I love them too, but eventually to retain my sanity they must go home to be raised by another creature called one of my sisters.

If you feel a certain way, then don't kid yourself.