PolecatEZ wrote:
I always shared a few traits with my aspie wife, so its actually hard to tell if any more have rubbed off. I have learned to adapt my very nature when just dealing with her (and now my son) - I can't tease, use sarcasm, and must initiate affection. I also just have to accept that she'll never get a real job and takes 3x longer to do any given household chores. (3 hours later, no joke) "Still washing dishes?" "Yes dear."
I think if I wasn't already similar in some things from the beginning of our relationship, it wouldn't have lasted this long. She doesn't see the point of going to parties with my various groups of friends with wierd interests (sci-fi and BDSM friends), I never saw the point of partying with my in-laws all weekend every weekend.
I have a relative who takes a very long time to do any household jobs, and I find it upsetting how very angry it makes people. It's taken many decades for me to understand that it's a neurological thing. It's hard seeing it from both the inside and the outside. Do I annoy people as much as my relative does? Has it been hard for my husband to accept that I too will probably never get a "real job"? Or is that what he likes about me - that I don't go anywhere much and am always available?
If you are slow, it can really bring out the worst in people, a bit like road rage. And if it's neurological, you really can't speed up.
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"Aspie: 65/200
NT: 155/200
You are very likely neurotypical"
Changed score with attention to health. Still have AS traits and also some difficulties.
16 Feb 2013, 11:59 am
