do you feel angry at yourself?

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I too am a passive individual that must be really pushed to go over the edge. The problem is that the anger I should feel often builds up in my subconscious, and my conscious mind does not recognize it. This results in the odd situation where at bed time when the subconscious mind is close to the surface there is a conflict with my conscious mind. Thus resulting in poor sleep. I have learned to release this down deep anger when I can recognise it, and it helps.

That being said, I recalled a mistake I made in the past this morning. Usually when this happens I bonk myself with my hand on the forehead then move on.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again topic

The above is all you can do. You cannot undo mistakes. grieve for what could have been then get over it and move on.

If I had to relive all my rotten mistakes over the years, I would have given up a long time ago.

Not worth it.

I usually feel... more disgusted or annoyed at myself, than angry. Generally I'm angry at other people or things. I suppose I'm angry at myself sometimes, but not usually--when I'm angry, I'm hugely so, and that doesn't really happen towards myself. I get really disgusted/annoyed at myself, though. *shrugs*

I feel angry with myself for allowing people to treat me the way they do. Angry just for being myself, I guess.

I get angry at myself much less than I used to. Usually being scared is what drives me to anger. I start to get agitated and isolate myself. I also get angry when I don't stand up for myself against some jerk. Strange thing is, sometimes instead of venting any anger to that jerk, I vent it toward somebody I know won't hurt me. I'm now recognizing that and try not to. I really don't know how to deal with anger. I know if I keep internalizing it though, I'll just blow up. I've had this happen many times before.

I get angry at meself for being too trusting of people. I get into financial problems because I trust people at what they say. I know this sounds childish, but there ya go ...

I am angry at myself right now, for going to an overwhelming social event that left me feeling drained, vulnerable, and defenseless. I slept poorly, because I kept reliving stupid things I said, due to feeling nervous, which led to more writhing in agony because I am such a social Klutz!

Sounds like one of my typical social mis-adventures, complete with the night time tape loop. Oh well, better not think about it anymore or I will boil over in anger.

Before my family and I came to the conclusion that I was an "aspie", I spent much of my life quite angry at myself for my Asperger related shortcomings. With no other point of reference other than being "odd"... I found myself quite impatient and brutal with myself at times. Since then, I've tried, and have been largely successful, at being more forgiving of myself, but sometimes old habits die hard. I can only go up from here, though, which is a nice realization to have...

It ends when you find some sort of self-worth. I used to be angry at myself all the time, it's really quite shocking when I read over my old diaries, the number of times I wrote "I hate myself so much".

You have to learn to love yourself somehow, maybe by developing a talent for something. You will always make mistakes, everybody does. That's how you learn. And you'll still get angry, that's life.

Sorry I can't be more specific, but there's no easy way out, you really need to come to this understanding yourself.

The self loathing is so hard. It feels like poison, running through my veins...

I used to get angry with myself, for being awkward around people, for not knowing what to say, things NTs seem to do so easily without even having to think about. But I don't so much now I'm older, although I do 'relive' mistakes, like a loop tape, replaying in my head, I try and stop myself doing this and say 'what harm have I really done? Have I ever hurt anyone deliberately?' No I haven't. My 'crimes' - as I see them - are very small really. The tough part is trying to keep a sense of perspective.

Anger turned inward is depression topic

But anger turned selfward is destructive depression, the kind when you physically hurt yourself. This is dangerous. And negative self talk does not address the issue. We all amke mistakes. Just try to not do them again. Once you get in the habit of problem solving and realize this is one of your strengths you will have no further need to be constantly angry with yourself. And that is another problem solved!

I identify with this.

I hate the fact that I hate myself sometimes... or that I'm not the happy and positive, outgoing, sociable person I wish I was. Somedays I feel fine, some days I don't care about anything.

I'm angry at my father. He should have never abused me, especially being only 7-11 (this is the time period in which I had contact with my father) and having special needs (which were more severe then). I hate myself for letting it consume my life without even knowing it.

Sorry to hear that you were abused by your father. I hope you can begin to heal.