Anyone Feel Immature for Their Age?

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To the original question - HECK YES!

My theory is that in some ways I've been emotionally stuck at an adolescent level for some time. As far a getting married and having kids, mostly the desire to do that just isn't there because that would mean jumping into adult responsibilities, and with a seemingly underdeveloped emotional state, would it work so well?

Maybe it's just being a late bloomer. Maybe I'll bloom when I'm 80.

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Probably swing between being immature and very mature. I was told I was mature as a kid but I enjoy playing the fool sometimes now I've gotten older. It's a freedom, probably a balance for being a too-serious kid.
I've never thought of you as immature though, MissConstrue. Your posts are often very wise.

...Of course .

Absolutely. I can't believe my eldest daughter is already 10. Haven't got used to the idea I'm a father yet!

Yeah I feel pretty immature for my age. I feel like even my counselors talk to me as a child. I once had a date over to my home that thought it was silly I had a Winnie the Pooh alarm clock on my end table because it was a gift from my ex-girlfriend. So I put stuff like that away and stopped mentioning to anyway that I watched Spongebob cartoons and own Muppets dvds.

I've got to 35, and still don't have a mortage, my job's entry-level with fluctuating hours, and I've never been in a relationship. Never managed to save up and buy a car, either. Still using the bus at my age - and it's not like I live in London, you know. I feel I've squandered the best years of my life, through not getting an education and equipping myself to live a worthwhile life. Looking back, I've considered myself a "free spirit", but perhaps it's more accurate to call myself an irresponsible maggot, just scraping by on the bare minimum and living like a ret*d.

There's a great quote I like that says "It takes a lifetime to grow young again", which means for the average person as they get into old age, they go back to being a kid again and learn to not take life so seriously.

I think the idea that people are "immature" just because they still like doing and acting like a "kid" is stupid, considering the adult word, the adult world seems more childish, cynical and bitter then most aspies IMHO. I think most adults are positively insane, they make endless excuses for their destructive principles and backwards rationalize their deplorable behavior towards one another.

I remember reading about an american having a distaste for the naive kindness many Japanese people showed others, and I felt like smacking the guy upside the head - distrust and hostility breed the same, and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The truth is many adults are so time strapped being trapped in their jobs and raising kids, that heir development as a person is stunted and I think certain aspies definitely buck this trend.

It seems to me most adults grow colder, hostile, aggressive, mindless, prejudiced and cynical as they age, they don't truly "mature" their previous immature behaviour and impulses merely take on a new form.

i wonder what life would be like if we lived it in reverse.

there would come the day when we longed for the time when we had grey hair again, and all those wrinkles that somehow got smoothed away by time.

the beautiful blue veins that traced their vine like stems all over our faces and hands will have deflated and disappeared, and our once spectacular pattern of spots will have faded to a uniform shade of pink.

then will come the day when someone says "jeez mate! your not long for it now! you haven't got any wrinkles or patterns left at all now, and your starting to shrink! looks like you've got 15 years at the most"

then as your stature dwindles, your ability to take care of yourself suffers, and you get forced to be cared for by others as your mind regresses into an infantile state. near the end, you can only make gurgling sounds, and have to be spoon fed with pastes.

then the day you have always dreaded comes. the day of your birth. as a parting insult before they push you into a hole, they spank your bottom.

but one positive thing would be that there could be no "sudden death " if you lived your life in reverse.

we would refer to the day where they extracted us from the box (coffin) as our "deathday"

some people would be lucky. they may be born on their 100th "deathday".

A doctor said I would never mature beyond age 14.

also complicating the matter, namely for men in the US is that men are maturing slower (kids etc) and continue to play video games past 30.

Im 30, I still like video games, cartoons, and I prefer to date girls between the ages of 18 and 21