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18 Oct 2007, 2:29 pm

Just yesterday a mate told me that being single (again) and living in a one room flat, he's found happiness. He doesn't have any worries, comes and goes as he pleases, and doesn't even pay rent.

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18 Oct 2007, 3:58 pm

Yeah not to beat a dead horse, but a mate buddy of mine said the last ten years of his new single life, he is no 55 has been his best yet. Shrugs….

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18 Oct 2007, 4:52 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:

Just yesterday a mate told me that being single (again) and living in a one room flat, he's found happiness. He doesn't have any worries, comes and goes as he pleases, and doesn't even pay rent.

That does sound like heaven....lol

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18 Oct 2007, 5:48 pm

I think it sucks.

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20 Oct 2007, 9:42 pm

He's not the most handsome chap, and has a grown son from his last marriage. He's found happiness living with the bare minimum of space, and possessions. He's also not in the best of health, and has come to accept that he doesn't need a large home, and a lot of things to make him happy. Quite cheerful, actually....

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23 Oct 2007, 9:04 am

I've been married twice, though that's probably not a good thing. I'll likely be married again some day.

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23 Oct 2007, 12:43 pm

My relationship is all screwed up and after years of trying I am bereft of any solution. I am really wondering if their is a solution after reading Temple Grandin's book Thru a Cow's Eye and if her constant nagging to change my behavior is healthy for me.

I mean holy cow, I just crave the idea of being like the above chap of all by himself, I don't get lonely and I am getting less and less materealistic as I grow older.

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23 Oct 2007, 2:09 pm

Frosty wrote:

That depends ...

Is she nagging about negative ASpie traits, like poor money management??
Or is she just nagging over you stimming, or obssessing??
Is it for the best, or just because you're doing something annoying (to her).

Some women nag out of mis-placed anger....

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26 Oct 2007, 7:51 pm

Space wrote:

People make too big of a deal out of relationships (AS and NT). No one person is going to be the be-all/end-all of happiness in your life. I don't think that a person with an attractive girl/boyfriend is that much happier at the end of the day than someone who is alone. It is all about your perspective on life.

It's possible too that that one person who should give at least some happiness in your life sometimes might not give any ever. That's called being in a "single" marriage and that's when your perspective on life can make the difference between living or not living.

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28 Oct 2007, 9:35 am

I'll be 43 in less than two weeks, and am nine cats on the way to "Crazy Cat Lady" status. All of my cats, including ferals, are well taken care of and I am not a cat hoarder. I also had one cat that lived to be 20, and many other animals, both cats and dogs, that lived to their late teens.

I hope someday to find a nice man who is also a pet person and can appreciate and love cats.

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29 Oct 2007, 2:27 pm

9CatMom wrote:

I hope you find someone special ! !! (There are gents that love cats too.)

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29 Oct 2007, 4:10 pm

I know quite a few people who are 40+ and are either divorced or single, and probably will stay single for a long time (if not forever). I can't help but think that I will be there one day. It is depressing. I am barely 24 and it seems so hard to meet someone. I can't imagine I will be better looking or more desirable then (with the possible exception of a job and more money/possessions). Do people just stop caring at a certain age and realize/decide that relationships are no longer worth pursuing?

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29 Nov 2007, 2:35 pm

Anyone else see the humor in the title Mar rage? lol

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29 Nov 2007, 8:22 pm

I misspelt that
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05 Dec 2007, 2:25 pm

Kilroy, you'll find someone when the time is right. Sometimes it just happens. Just try to be as happy as you can until it happens. I know you have a lot to offer someone, you just have to find the right person who appreciates it.

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05 Dec 2007, 7:03 pm

well lets hope

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