The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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I do hope Serious hasn't left the building ....

(Perhaps she'll drop by a public library??)

I don't have any other way to contact her. I think she just went to her cave and that's it for awhile. I'm projecting myself onto her because that's what I do. I tend to drop off the face of the earth and recharge.

LOL yup that's what I tend to do to.

I just get nervous when there are excitable men around, which she seems to have.

looks like Bazza Wilson McKensie ( AKA Ian) is leaving us too. He is not going overnight, but he has said his good byes. .


Merle

What??? Where did he say that?

I read that too and I can't remember where. He needs a break.

On a completely different note, my boss went at it with coffee dude yesterday. He falls into the trap of thinking I'm unhappy when I'm just spaced out. She was buying coffee for me and the admin, so he said, see, now you can be happy because she's doing something nice for you. You don't have to be unhappy anymore. I just looked at him silently, but my boss said, she's fine. He said, no she's not. She's been unhappy. My boss bristles up and said, She's not social and she's not interested. That's not the same as being unhappy, you are just misreading her. He turns all red and says, I know how she feels. I know her. He does? Based on two minute coffee encounters every morning???? So she says, you do not know her. I am her boss and I know her.


I thought they were going to come to blows over it. My boss doesn't like him and she's been upset every since the admin told her he flirts with me. She's a funny person. The admin said it was the craziest thing she'd ever seen and I just shrugged. People do this with me all the time and I have no idea why. I am wandering around thinking and they just seem to go crazy about something I'm not even aware is happening. It really is most bizarre.


Just another day in NT paradise.

Oh Zanne, you're soooooo popular you've got NT's fighting over you ! !!


I'm so very jealous ! !!

I think it's more like I'm so clueless. Today is not a good day. I wish I could skip over today.

I'm feeling down this afternoon. I don't know if this is even the right thread to post in, but I guess in real life I might crawl into a cafe and nurse my drink in the corner.

I'm feeling quite sad that there seems to be a lot of bad feeling around WP at the moment, as well as a couple of longer term people leaving. A lot of the falling out seems to be affecting people who are familiar members on the site.

Don't get me wrong - I can be as bad as the next person - but today it just made me feel really depressed. There, I've got it off my chest. If by chance I've offended anyone either now or in the past, I apologise.

I'm probably wrong to post this, as it's probably none of my business, but hey what the heck. Had to say something. Perhaps it's just selfishness, because I don't like change or conflict. Perhaps I'm just feeling sorry for myself today .

I find that if I am having a down day, the conflict and negativity that I sometimes find on here can be depressing. Especially the members who are having arguments with each other. If it was the physical world I would be long gone because it is that disturbing to me. However, on WP I find I can just skim over the parts I don't want to read. I ignore many of the rude or negative comments on here. It would be nice if they would just PM each other with their arguments and rude comments but I suppose that would take away their drama.

I still don't know what to make of people just leaving here, especially when they are talking about a problem and then are suddenly gone. It is worrisome. I wish I could help you to feel better about that but I don't like change either and get the same down feelings when people come and go. If you think of something that helps let me know. Maybe we can both figure it out.

Giving Cerrunos and Blessed a Caramel Macchiato because I just got one to make me feel better (and because I threw my lunch away since my stomach hurt). I don't like conflict I can't understand (it either went over my head or I wasn't involved). If I get upset, I just say I'm done and I ignore. I think it's a way for me to deal with it and not go into overload.

I hate ambiguity which I don't see much of on here. My boss sent me an invite this morning titled "discussion." I spent the entire morning in anxiety that I did something wrong, I was laid off, or she was leaving as my boss. It was none of those. She has a new job as head of Performance Management, a group I worked under in another company. I told her that and asked to work with her on it, so that's what we are going to do. She's very excited now because she "loves my logical mind." She told me she loves to work with me. So that made me feel better. She couldn't put what the meeting was about in the subject because everyone can see it and they aren't announcing it until Friday. She's pretty logical as well and she knows ambiguity makes me uneasy. She also knows I hate social things and never pushes that. Besides, she yelled at coffee dude yesterday. LOL

So pushing out some better energy to all of us. Maybe something is going on with the moon or the atmosphere. I'm overly sensitive to all of that.

I have stepped in to a brand new community. I find that in a non-virtual
community I tend to be really shy and avoid large gatherings. I am very
literal in my communication, as well as non-confrontational. I do not care
to tell lies, and love rules. In the NT "dominate" world of socializing, I have
never been successful. I often wonder if it was easier to emotionally,
sexually, and physically abuse me because of being Aspie/ADD, or I became
withdrawn, promiscuous and subservient because I was abused. I really do.
I keep thinking that I need to journal everything about my life, but I get so
freaked out about it that I just end up tearing it up because it scares me so
much.

I am quite sure my mother, as well as my son have signs of Borderline Personality,
as well as ADD and OCD. My son is the only one ever diagnosed with anything, but
therapists have clearly stated more than once, do NOT put these 3 people in
the same room together, whatever you do. Needless to say, I am not in contact
with either one of them. I am the one in the middle, the one who can NOT at all
tolerate contention or conflict. As soon as the voices are raised, I am GONE. On
the other hand, my mother and my son seem to thrive and seek out drama, and
turmoil and debate. They also have very little respect or concern for people who
are not like them. I feel sad that I can not be around my family.

About a year and a half ago I got laid off of my job. (file clerk) I was glad to go, I
guess, because of all my sound sensitivity issues. There were some people that
chewed gum and popped it, which I have an extreme aversion to. I really now
wish I would have gotten a diagnosis while still under medical coverage with that
company. Now I have no insurance, no job, and not too much money, but I have
peace & quiet, and no hateful family members to torment me, and emotionally abuse
me anymore. I moved to a very rural, slow community and it suits me well. I am
horrible on job interviews so it is taking me a while to find my way. I am really trying
to make a go of it on my own. I am 50 years old but I do not feel that way most of
the time. (Well my body does LOL) but I seem to have an ageless spirit. I love old
people. They move so slow and have such great stories about the past.

I have been fortunate to have crossed paths with people throughout my life that have
shown great compassion and love and have worked hard to help me heal from some
of the pain I have experienced. I am not one to hold grudges per say, but I do have
a hard time forgetting stuff. I like the Final Fantasy Rpg games because they help
me focus and I really love solving puzzles and mysteries. I love music and dancing,
as well, even though I do not do either. I love animals, but as I have gotten older
I have had to give up caring for them, as I am having trouble taking care of myself
very well. I would rather not have an animal, than have it suffer in any way because
of me. I can be alone for long periods of time and be totally fine with that. Some NT's
try to make me feel bad about this, like I need to "work" on it. I find that frustrating.
I know who my real friends are because they accept me for who I am without judging
me or trying to change me. I am not saying I never get mad or don't have a temper,
because I do. The thing that really gets me mad is when I see others being bullied, teased
and abused. I tend to hold a lot in. It is safer to have my world and emotions kept hidden and safe. I have a very lovely world, but it is on the inside. I rarely let out my joy, excitement and enthusiasm.

I too feel bad when people get mad and leave places they have been a long time. I don't do
real well with change and it takes me a long time just to gear myself up for something that
others do without barely a thought. I think the main thing that really upsets my about the
NT's is that some of them get mad when they can't get a rise out of you, when they are
unable to control and manipulate you as they have been able to with others and this makes
them angrier and then they get all kinds of abusive. Anyway I try to put all that behind me
and just make the best of what I have now. I get scattered and confused and distracted real
easy so this has taken me over an hour to write. I need to go and mow my yard before it rains!

Welcome DaQwerk. I think we are all on the continual road of figuring out our lives. It sounds like your journey has been long, but maybe it is getting better now. I hope so.

Welcome to the Cafe, DaQwerk! This is my favorite time of the day here because I can sit back with my tea and quietly read the other posts. I'm sure that you will like the people you meet here, they are quite the characters and as strange at this is to say, I have grown rather attached to a few of them. I hope that doesn't scare anyone off. They know that I am ADD/AS and rather over-emotional.
I wish you well with your job search and know that you will find friends among the people here!

Welcome DaQwerk, do have a seat and a cuppa, and tell us some more ! !