Tongue cancer - mine

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Oh, geez, APoM, I'm so sorry to hear this----BUT, it seems things are progressing-along, fairly well (although, having to go-through the rigamarole of another op, sucks).

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts----here's hoping for the very BEST, possible, outcome!!

Please keep us updated.....

Thanks for all the best wishes.

I did not know where to post this but since this is my favorite section on this board I am doing it here.

My father died yesterday after a long battle with congestive heart failure just short of his 87th birthday. His last day was spent doing what he wanted. He visited me in rehab just several hours before he died and died while sitting in his driveway enjoying the fall sun.

I am so sorry for your loss. My father also died at age 87 from congestive heart failure, peacefully in his own bed at home. It's a "ripe old age" and I doubt I will make it that long myself, so I was able to look back at his life with contentment, and I see that you are also consoling yourself that your father died doing what he wanted.

May he rest in peace, and may you find peace in your heart too.

I'm glad your dad had no pain when he passed into the Other World.

My condolences about your father. It sounds like he had a good day and a very peaceful death. A good way to go.
All the best wishes for you.

What a huge series of events you have experienced in recent months and recent years APOM, which have not dimmed your light, you are really an extremely impressive person and loved/respected member of WP. Now this very significant loss, which always affects us on every level of our being, puts us into a fresh era of reflection, directs our attention and emotion to the effects of the loss, often to parts of ourselves we have paid less attention to, and the often tender memories which so dominate the early weeks of loss if the relationship has been a heartfelt one.

Please take gentle and extra kind care of yourself - I hope you have others to assist with the arrangements that need to be made, so that you continue to focus on surgical recovery and integrate all of these events which you have faced with such patience and quiet courage. It seems to me that sometimes some much younger people believe that at our stage of life, we must be totally bored as our lives are meaningless empty useless things in which all significant events are far back in the past ("youthcentricism"), because understandably they have no inkling of the continuing richness, newness and diversity of our experiences in this stage. And in your life, it seems to me, at every stage. Will be thinking of you a lot in the coming weeks.

I am also sorry to hear this news. He held on to see you into your recovery it would seem. I imagine it gave him some peace of mind to know you are over that major surgery.

It is hard. You do seem amazingly strong.

Thank you everybody for your kind words.

I am sorry to read this ASaPartofMe, my sincere condolences.
He had a quick passing, something many would hope for at the end, after a full day where you spent time together. This loss is something which will affect you for some time; for what its worth, we will be here. Feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat about it.

Sorry for your loss, my father died @ the age of 75 in August 2014 and i know how you feel.

I hope the cancer treatment is working out ok, nowadays a cancer diagnosis is not always terminal.

Take care of yourself dude.

I had the second operation on Friday. It lasted an hour and I was back in the rehab facilitity by Saturday. If it was only simple as that. The way things work I had to be officially discharged from the rehab. Have my surgeon write my insurence company that and I needed more rehab then officially readmited. Thing is I was told that I was bieng discharged as I was leaving to go to the hospital. Besides worrying about going under general Anastasia I now had to worry about bieng sent from the hospital to my residence before I was ready. Whoever I told about about my predicament in the hospital be it my surgeon, his assitants, the nurses they all seem to know that is how the system works, that it was not a problem I would be redmitted the next day. Still since it was Saturday, Holloween and I had to wait until the next day to get back my stuff while I worried about my stuff bieng pilfered.

I was closer to an all out meltdown that day then the day of my original operation which was a much more serious 10 hour operation.

On a lighter note the in my first operation when I got Anastasia I was wondering why it was not taking effect then next thing I knew the operation was over. This time over a short period I felt myself going into unconsciousness and it was way cooler peaceful feeling then going to sleep in a regular manner. Coming out of it was similar. Before the operation the assistant rubbed my hand as I was on the table. That was not a problem as touching me on my shoulders or neck would have been. They gave me a bunch of pillows to raise my head. Usually they insist that I lie flat all the way back which is very uncomfortable for me.