Reacting to sleights

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I am very touchy. But what makes things more serious is that I am unable to evaluate in a proper way the sleights I receive. Sleights are for me nukes in my bubble. I don’t know how to react properly and in the right moment. So I grumble about them sleights for indefinite periods of time and my only reaction is to avoid the people who offended me, sometimes this leading to a final separation. Oh the art of responding immediately with some irony and humor! There is nothing to do about it. Either you know instinctually how to play verbal fencing in a balanced mix of toughness and friendliness or you are lost for life. It might be something to add to symptoms of AS, or it simply might be the main explanation in the impossibility to interact with others.

I'm sorry, but what is a sleight?

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I think he means a "slight" - i.e. an insult.

I was thinking this....

I think it's already in the symptom list, as literal interpretations. Reaction is everything. I learned by watching NT people that sometimes it is perfectly okay to not have any reaction at all and most of the time that is the best route for me to take. I tend to verbalize compulsively so I know what you mean about going on and on about it, I have done that to. It seems to go a lot deeper into us for some reason. I think concentration on the reaction part is the best way to focus on it but that doesn't mean I am always successful, I think maybe half the time I react appropriately. That's a whole lot better than it used to be though. I am with you in that alot of us just don't have 'what it takes' to react best in these situations...that's when it calls for self-nurturing and going easy on ourselves.

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greetings paolo- i learnt long ago [not criticising you] that i lacked the "right stuff" [well-functioning brain with all parts working in high-speed harmony- this is the "instincitve part], which manifests itself as slow cognition, far too slow to deal in real time with other people. it's like having an 8086 CPU when the world has gone on to pentium IV. i was made to be alone, and until i realized this i was sooooooo frustrated at being a social failure. i now know why the hermit is a hermit- to find any kind of peace i had to become one myself. so no friends, no acquaintances even. alone. there are far worse things, i keep reminding myself.

I try hard - not always successfully - to hold back frm reacting retaliating UNLESS and UNTIL i have incontrovertible evidence the hurt was intended.

It means I let some enemies off as merely insensitive jerks - but the, I need people to cut me some slack for all the things I say and do having no idea what the effect will be on someone else.

I do relate to the OMG I been diss'd or they were being condescending or patronizing me and I just know it.

Sometimes others are teasing and I take it all serious.

Now I just try hard to ignore it and decide they are lower end humans and not give them the joy of getting arise out of me.

Of course it does not always work but helps - but really times do declare and dictate one must cut off certain people or types of folks that continually degrade or insult us at most every turn or chance - they have to been totally removed from our lives. It sometimes has to flow that way.