How do you tell your family?

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Or should I even bother?

Especially when the parents are 80 and hard-core Baptist hypocrites - 'cause it's all about how it looks and whether or not they'll get thrown out of the church. Right now they are just waiting to die & trying to atone for the past so they'll get into heaven (like that really exists).

I haven't spoken to them for over a year. I'm tired of always having to play a role & not make my mother cry. She has multiple personalities and my dad lives in a pharmacological haze. Been that way since I was 12 (I'm almost 50 now).

My Aspie traits were never acknowledged or they tried to shame me out of them. I was always surprised they didn't think I was possessed. But exorcism is a Catholic thing (insert sarcasm).

I'm still coming to grips with my AS - not quite a month into the dx.

I suggest you don't. They are not going to understand and you'll just upset them.

Why bother? I never told my parents. Barely anyone in my real life knows. I only started telling the people who do know because my son was diagnosed an aspie. When you're an adult, there's very few things you need to share with your parents about your personal life.

I've thought about it but I think my mom would be very dismissive.

I'd like to contrive a way for my parents to stumble across an article or TV interview about it and put the puzzle pieces together themselves.

I will probably never tell my family. they all though my LFA son wasn't Autistic and i was stupid for getting him diagnosed. they will never understand.

Once you are an adult, you don't have to share stuff with your parents.

My mum was initially, until I showed her a set of typical symptoms and AS traits. She's more supportive now even though she doesn't entirely agree with me.

We both think my dad has more severe AS than I do, but given his age, there's little point in telling him about my diagnosis, or getting him diagnosed.

I told my dad and he instantly accepted it and was very supportive. I tried to tell my mother and she ranted on about how she knows more about it than me and I'm just a hypochondriac and how autistic people can't do this and that, therefore I can't have AS. It really depends on what your goal is. If you just want to get it out of your system whatever their response, go for it. If you want them to accept it, realize what you've been through, and support you in the future, you may be out of luck, as I was with my mother. Unfortunately there's no way to change what someone believes.