Aspie's Empty Nest

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I am an aspie widowed single mom and my youngest (also an aspie) is now a senior in high school. He plans on moving out to a studio apartment nearby and going to community college afterwards. He has college funded thanks to his grandparents so I do believe he will actually be moving out. His non-aspie older sister did the same thing.

So this will leave me totally alone. EEK! Of course I don't have much of a social life. I do work full time and get social interaction there. I have a special interest in home renovations and gardening so I plan on buying an older home to work on and keep me busy. But this is a huge change. I don't like change much.

Any words of wisdom from those who have gone down this path before?

Hi!

I am an NT mom of an Aspie teenager (won't move out for three years, but I have older children who have moved away), so I kind of know what you're feeling.

Do you belong to a church of some sort? That can be a bigger community of people you can socialize with to a degree. Also, is there some sort of gardening and/or construction group that you can meet up with? Or start going to a class on one of those subjects? My hobby is knitting, and I know that when the last child leaves, I will force myself to go find a knitting group to keep me from getting lonely or too insular.

Also, I've always thought that I would go volunteer for Habitat For Humanity when all the kids are gone -- get outdoors, do some heavy labor, learn some new construction/renovation skills. That might be a good opportunity for you to meet people AND do something you are already interested in.

Hello Melody

I'm alone too - my son is coming up to his last year at uni.
He was home for summer but couldn't get a job here so went to stay with a friend where he could get work.

Sometimes life has a habit of giving me company that I CAN enjoy - but then decides I'm not worthy and takes it away again.
Just wish someone would stay!