Microaggressions

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I was just wondering if anyone in here has ever dealt with people who share certain microagressions about your position and social economic status.
I.E-
-Where you can live based on your income.
-How and when you associate with married people because they have a spouse to take care of.

Those types of comments really touch my buttons on when and how I am supposed to do things based on societies norms.

Has anyone else in here heard that type of talk?

yes, the tea-baggin' red-state yahoos in my corner of rural hell seldom fail to remind me that in their opinion, i [long-haired leftist me] don't belong among them, the butch-haircut flannelshirt and jeans-wearing rightwinged proudly middle-class salt of the earth.

Are there witty ways to handle classist comments like that?

I don't know what emoticon to use here, but five stars for this thread subject.
If there are, (witty ways to handle micro aggression comments) please speak up.
I got attacked by one - really nasty - of these - under the guise of "it's just a joke/light hearted comment" just last week.
And when I tried to defend myself I got lectured by someone who overheard it for not "handling it properly" ...then I had a meltdown - quietly in my room - which took three days to get over and messed up my immune system as usual.
The thing is, I don't like and am hurt by the emotions that go with this but ignoring the whole thing can make me feel like a volcano getting ready to blow.

I recently got attacked microaggressively and I did say something witty to one of the situations that made the other people laugh. Even though it still hurt, I found a way to push back.

I know I answered my own question here but I need some good examples.

I like the way you said you made them laugh, it still hurt but you pushed back at their aggression.
That shows you are on the right track.
Whereas I just can't figure out what to say quickly enough. Maybe I am expecting too much of myself. If I do blurt something immediately, it's often way too harsh/weird, or pathetically submissive.
So over the years I stopped talking back at people for the most part.
Talking with people results in me being insulted in various ways some camoflaged, some just out in the open to make sure I know my place in the "pecking order" which is usually directly related to socio-economic status.

You don't.

You develop a thick enough skin to ignore them...

...or you accept them as truth, live in accordance with them, and do the best you can to be happy anyway.

It is NEVER OK to expect, to want, or to attempt to induce others to change their behavior. They can treat you any way they want. The only control you have is to try to conduct yourself in such a way as to make them want to treat you well. Failing that (and, for us, that will generally fail), you can try to conduct yourself in such a way as to escape notice.

Speak little (generally only when you need information or are spoken to), give known appropriate stock responses, do not divulge personal information unless absolutely necessary, NEVER discuss your opinions.