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I'm 25 and have never been in any form of relationship (except once by accident when I was 20 and didn't realise a guy I went running with thought we were together), and don't seem to have any romantic/sexual feelings at all. Does anyone else experience this? It never really bothered me but last week I was babysitting and one of the kids was asking if I was going to have kids and I said I didn't know. He then asked about whether I'd ever get a boyfriend/girlfriend or get married, and his brother said he didn't think I would. I still don't think I want a relationship, but I do really want kids. No idea if this in common or not?

I have nothing against single mothers, but are you saying you'd consciously choose to be one?

I'm not saying you can't do it alone, but wouldn't you want a second person there? Wouldn't your kids want to know where daddy was?

I don't want to have kids and have never wanted to have them, which is obviously the exception.
If you don't want to get into a relationship, but you're willing to have kids, there are a few things you should probably do - like ensure you save up enough or have good social support to be able to cope when you are ready to have a kid. You can always just go to a sperm bank - no need to engage with a partner. Many women in South Africa are single mothers (sometimes by choice, sometimes not) and it's really no big deal.
Do whatever makes you feel comfortable - although just make sure you have other people around to help because babies are overwhelming. I'm speaking from my experience as a doctor, not from my experience with kids and stuff.

Actually I have the reverse problem - I want a long-term committed relationship with no kids