Attitude toward having a partner changed as you get older?

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I've just been thinking that my attitude has changed as I've got older. I was more unhappy about the idea of being single when I was younger. I think that it was alot to do with societie's pressures and what I was expected to achieve. Now that I'm older there is still that pressure, I am "meant to be settled down by now," but I've been on my own so long that I don't feel like having someone else around would be easy to adjust to and would be more of an upheaval than anything.

I shared an apartment for a while and didn't like it and now I have my own place to live by myself I feel like I don't want to give that up anytime soon.

I wonder at my younger self and how I was so eager to find someone. The way I would be interested in a guy I had just met and think he was amazing and I just had to get to know him better.

I don't know if I'm more jaded now. But I don't have that mindless enthusiasm anymore. It's not a crazy need, it's a maybe.

Anyone else feel they have changed over the years?

yes........although with me it was having children.

I have kids now and am "settled" but it's painfully difficult and in order to cope I'm on medication.