Does this sound like change aversion

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There are a good number of traits I thought that I initially didnt have.. change aversion may be one of them. Below is a list of changes that ended up going horribly wrong (i.e. I didnt transition well). While I dont baulk at bus timetables being altered surely the true objective evidence would be in analysing how ive managed* change (in a practical sense):
~My little brother growing up
~Moving from infant school to primary school (scapegoating started then)
~Moving from primary to secondary school (I ended up trying to be one of the "cool kids" and just became the class clown)
~Adolescence (My OCD + anxiety basically started then and hasnt let up since)
~GCSE#s to A levels (Failed first time and became addicted to painkillers second time)
~A levels to University (Failed first time and had several suicide attempts)


About the only change that went well was Year 9 to GCSE's and I spent much of those 2 years wandering about the streets pursuing OCD compulsions!

Hi. I also struggled with change all my life, which caused lots of anxiety and obsessions to try to control things that happened. In 1998 I read a book called "Happiness Is A Choice" by Barry Kaufman (who started the Option Institute) and the 6 shortcuts to happiness I've been practicing ever since. "Happiness" being just accepting what is and then doing what you want. It really freed me up from a lot of stuff that was driving the behaviors I didn't like. BTW his son, Raun, was diagnosed with autism at age 3 and was nonverbal with lots of stims and doctors said he'd need to be institutionalized. But Barry and his wife just wanted to accept the way he was and they actually joined him when he spun plates or tip toed, wanting him to feel loved no matter how he was. They thought "let's enter his world if he can't enter ours." And after 3 years (with lots of intensive time with their son) he was able to make eye contact, speak and function to the point of entering kindergarten. This was in the late 70s. Raun went on to go to Brown University majoring in biomedical ethics (and was on the debate team). Our being Aspie doesn't have to stop us from doing what we want in life and accepting ourselves just as we are.