Is re-locating more difficult for aspies?

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Well like I said before, an NT re-locating would likely be leaving a large-circle-of-friends behind, which is why it could be harder for the NT. But then again the NT will probably make more friends fairly easily at the new place he/she lives.

So I suppose it could be overall harder for the autistic person if he/she has a few friends that are being left behind since making new ones often takes a long time for someone with AS. If they weren't close friends the autistic person might not care much either way though. Depends on the circumstances I guess.

"Depends on the circumstances I guess."

And, as it turns out, circumstances are different for everyone.

In my case the few friends I gained throughout grade school
and beginning high school were lost when we moved and
never replaced in the new urban school system, or college.

I can imagine others sharing my experiences.

If you don't miss your friends perhaps they were merely acquaintances,
because friends care about friends differently than acquaintances.

I moved out of my parents house at 19, but I still relied on them for everything. Mostly I was living with boyfriends, but I was on my own for a year after a break up but I only lived a couple of minutes away from my parents and saw my my a few times a week. She did my laundry and paperwork, and I pretty much lived off waffles and cheese on toast.

I moved again a month ago at the age of 27, in with my current boyfriend, and I felt so much anxiety to the build up, I was really stressed and worried things would fall though with the estate agent, and frustrated because my boyfriend was so laid back and wouldn't do what I was asking (asking loads of questions of estate agent etc.) I was surprised how difficult this last move has been...even though I'm still in the same town!
I guess some people can cope better than others at these things, I would suggest trying not to have too many changes in one go if you think you have some issue with change.

I'm more independent now than I have ever been, and sometimes it's tough but overall it feels rewarding to finally feel like a real grown up.