Feeling very socially isolated

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Hi everyone

I can't even remember the last time I posted, but nevermind. I'm now 31 years old, for the past 3 years I have been unable to work due fibromyalgia & mental health issues. I dont have a diagnosis for aspergers but I believe that I fit the bill. 3 years ago although socially I was not perfect in the sense I did struggle. I found it difficult to relate to people back then, maintaining friendships, or drama caused me massive problems to the point I has a break down. 3 years on from that I found that I struggle more. My "friends" dropped me quickly when I became ill apart from 1 person who does all she can to stay in contact but her life is centred around so much drama and I can't deal with it. I feel it make me worse. Thinking about all this, yeah I know that's dangerous. I actually feel very alone. I have my wife who I love, but I actually do not have friends my age who are female. One friend is 6 years younger and aspie and her mum who in her 50s. I have other friends who are male but I don't see them often, it can be weks to months before we see each other.

I've realised I actually feel very out of it in a social sense and at the age of 31 find it very difficult to meet others and connect.

I guess social media is properly the worst for causing these feelings as I see people know, meeting up regularly, still partying or having nights in.

I kinda long to have that social inclusion.
My wife has friends from work who I support her in spending time with, yet I slight feelings of jealously as I can't remember the last time I was invited to an activity from friends of similar age.

I apologises in advance, (I'm sorry I'm always apologising) If this is just a poor little me thread, no one like a person who feels sorry from themselves! Lol

if anyone has any ways of dealing with this or suggestions, I greatly like to hear from you. Xxxx

I don't have any advice I'm afraid- I'm 25, single, and kind of in the same position socially :/
I just wanted to offer my support and say hang in there

This might not be much help, but maybe you could look for local people looking for friends online? Maybe a longshot here, but I know even dating sites nowadays are used by a lot of people for finding platonic friends as well. Maybe you could have some luck finding people with similar interests that way

Have you looked for mental health groups in your area? I feel folk who understand the virulent jungle where you have wandered within may make you feel more understood if you connect with them over a period of time.