Using nudge reminders to have better & happier lives

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Ok so we find life hard. We have to work at it.

I have found it very helpful and powerful to do the following: (p.s. I'm 54 and life is going very well actually; very good career, 30-year marriage, happy family doing well, friendships)

1. analyse what could be better in life (especially when things go badly) and learn lessons;
- how I could do things better next time,
- how I could prevent difficult situations occurring,
- how I could 'prime' my brain with good attitudes, mantras and perspectives ahead of tough situations,

2. remember and apply those lessons next time. To do this I use nudges (either tech or hand-written reminders)

One example is that I have found socialising much easier, more successful and less tiring since I started reminding myself every day not to analyse social interactions, either (i) whilst they are happening, or (ii) afterwards. No analysing! Just sort of let them be...

I wondered if anyone else used this approach - i.e. using nudges or reminders (tech or less tech; e.g. a diary or post-it note!) to remind yourself how to best operate in certain situations?

all the best
John

That is a great attitude!

Embarrassing confession... I use Google Calendar to remind me when to take a shower (every 3 days, because I find the sensory overload awful. ) It forces me to do it, no matter how badly I would rather not!

And I keep a list of things I need to focus on, which I look at every day - divided into 'Current Issues', 'Upcoming Issues', and 'Potential Future Issues'... Seeing them all sorted out like that is less overwhelming!

I love that there are so many tech options, for pop-up or email reminders... I once experimented with setting up little reminders for everything in my daily routine, but that was a bit overboard!

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