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MadSc13ntist
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31 Mar 2018, 5:40 pm

Does anyone else suffer from constant fear? Fear of rejection? Fear of being misunderstood? Fear of being bullied or otherwise targeted? Fear of being inadequate? Fear of being unmotivated and unable to achieve goals? Fear of abandonment and handling your difficulties alone? Fear of failure?

I find myself living in constant fear and no matter how bad I want to change this I simply can't seem to help it. Does anyone else have this trouble holding you back from enjoying the best parts of your life without screwing them up somehow?



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31 Mar 2018, 5:56 pm

Is social isolation part of this? Generally, I think that being isolated can greatly enhance fears over time. How connected are you?



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03 Apr 2018, 8:22 pm

MadSc13ntist wrote:
Does anyone else suffer from constant fear? Fear of rejection? Fear of being misunderstood? Fear of being bullied or otherwise targeted? Fear of being inadequate? Fear of being unmotivated and unable to achieve goals? Fear of abandonment and handling your difficulties alone? Fear of failure?

I find myself living in constant fear and no matter how bad I want to change this I simply can't seem to help it. Does anyone else have this trouble holding you back from enjoying the best parts of your life without screwing them up somehow?



Yes I do. and I am living the abandonment one right now :(



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21 Apr 2018, 9:42 am

Yes. Fear of finding myself in the same crap years down the line. Fear of not achieving my goals. Fear of others (NT's) sabotaging my goals. I could go on!



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06 May 2018, 5:53 pm

Fear of my mind going. I think I have the early stages of dementia , and both of my grandparents on my father's
side of the family succumbed to it. That is why I want to have a caretaker, and be kept locked up at night.



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09 May 2018, 8:11 pm

I am certainly familiar with grinding, all pervasive fear, sometimes paralyzing. I think some people also describe this as anxiety and it can really impact one's ability to do anything at all, or everything. If you browse the postings on WP, you will find many people experience that fear and anxiety. It seems to be common among aspies. You are not alone.


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12 May 2018, 7:24 am

I've had the fear of abandonment with both my exes & it was one of the reasons those relationships ended. I don't have the problem to bad in my current realtionship because I got on OCD & anxiety medication before this relationship began.


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04 Jul 2018, 1:07 pm

I observe separation from the herd in humans is the root cause of several of the Aspie negative traits. Many Aspies report living in a state of constant fear. They are always on high alert for signs of danger. They exhibit strange behaviors similar to those exhibited by animals separated from their herd. These negative traits include: hypersensitivity to senses (sight, smell, hearing, taste, and touch), sensory overload and shutdowns, gastrointestinal problems related to prolonged stress, mental health problems/psychological disorders (depression, self harm, eating disorders, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder), and muscle or vocal ticks.

If you can conquer your fears, many of the negative aspects of Asperger's will melt away.

Some Aspies report that some types of therapy are very beneficial. Therapy targeting fear and stress such as programs that treat PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) help. These include somatic experiencing, beam life coaching, Tipi emotional regulation therapy, and exposure therapy.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:11 pm

MadSc13ntist wrote:
Does anyone else suffer from constant fear? Fear of rejection? Fear of being misunderstood? Fear of being bullied or otherwise targeted? Fear of being inadequate? Fear of being unmotivated and unable to achieve goals? Fear of abandonment and handling your difficulties alone? Fear of failure?

I find myself living in constant fear and no matter how bad I want to change this I simply can't seem to help it. Does anyone else have this trouble holding you back from enjoying the best parts of your life without screwing them up somehow?

Yes to all


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23 Oct 2018, 8:59 am

Yes, I feel more or less constant fear, though of quite different things from those mentioned by you.



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23 Oct 2018, 11:46 am

Yeah; I might feel rejection, but if I don't try to relate to others, loneliness will be an absolute certainty.
Yeah; I might get fired, but if I don't try to function at work, poverty will be an absolute certainty.
I cannot control external circumstance; all I can do is do my best, and try to stop worrying about the results. Central to that is not listening to the hateful derogatory defeatist self-talk that's been programmed inside my head.
Every time that endless-loop tape starts playing in my mind, I reply that it's full of s**t. Over time, it becomes much less compelling.

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

Frank Herbert; Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear



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23 Oct 2018, 3:33 pm

MadSc13ntist wrote:
Does anyone else suffer from constant fear? Yes

Fear of rejection? Yes, but a lot of times, someone rejected me. The same with the other ones. The fear is out of proportion, but not unjustified

Fear of being misunderstood? Yes

Fear of being bullied or otherwise targeted? Yes

Fear of being inadequate? Yes

Fear of being unmotivated and unable to achieve goals?

Yes

Fear of abandonment and handling your difficulties alone? Yes

Fear of failure? Yes

I find myself living in constant fear and no matter how bad I want to change this I simply can't seem to help it. Does anyone else have this trouble holding you back from enjoying the best parts of your life without screwing them up somehow?
. Yes