I hate having no one to receive advice from

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My bf's dad is great and I can tell him anything (in fact I'm sure I've told him more than he's comfortable knowing before but he doesn't say that to me, he just doesn't comment on the "too personal" stuff whearas he comments on everything else.) He calls me if bf tells I'm upset, and he's spoked to a doctor for me about health problems I was experiencing. My own parents wouldn't show as much concern for me as he does in one phone conversation if they were being paid to care.

But the thing is being as he's my BF's dad I can't really rely on him for relationship advice. Mainly because I have to respect that there are things my BF wouldn't want him knowing and since its his dad his preference would of course outweigh mine, unless there was some kind of immediate concern. I have things I want to talk about now but no one with whom I could talk about them in the way I'd like.

I also can't rely on him to always be there for me becaue if bf and I broke up and drifted apart what reason would his dad to continue speaking with me.


I hate not having a real family. No matter what I'm never going to experience what its like to get unconditional love because my parents don't give a damn about me.


This stuff didn't use to bother me but when I spent a week about my bf's house I saw a family's love to an extent I never imagined possible. The love, concern, listening to each other, a mom who made meals for her children. From the time I was 12 until I moved out I was sneaking down to the barn at night to take hostess stuff out of the storage tank for the pigs food cause there was nothing to eat in the house. Okay now I'm just venting, one thing after another. Had a very bad childhood, lack of food is one of the better things about it.

I just wish i had someone I could talk to about things that I feel a need to talk too and that don't make sense speaking about with BF or his dad.

I wish I had a family who did not consider every AS-related problem as a personal failing that a good beating will solve.

Well, I know that it's not the same as a family but if you need advice on anything you can always try the good folk at Wrong Planet

For most stuff a post to one of the boards might give you some good ideas but if you really get stuck or it's kinda embarrassing then pick a member who you think might be able to help and send them a pm.

Ed Almos

yeah, but see I wasn't thinking the other week and i told my bf my id on here. When I realized that, I told him not to read the posts here, and I'm sure he'll oblige. But still I don't feel comfortable doing that on this account now. Its not that its bad stuff, its just that its private and there are some thoughts I have that I think it would be best for him not to know (somethings because there would be no use in telling him, others because it would upset him but is something I need to resolve internally. Onvce I've resolved them I don't mind telling him but I'd rather not put any pressure on him to act a certain way if its simply my understanding of the situation that needs changing - like that post I made about "should I forgive him.' Being as he's diagnozed with asperger's, and I didn't speak up at all about him being absorbed in his special interest rather than going out to eat with me as planned, there really wasn't anything I should ahve been debating about forgiving him for.

Well if you feel he might read your posts and you feel uncomfortable about it then you should start a new user account with a new name. Then don't tell him the new name so if you say something personal in the future he won't know its you.

If you need someone to talk to you can PM me if you want. Though relationship advice is not my expertise. But if its other sorts of advice you need maybe I could help. I have a friend that is not on here that I feel for sure is an Aspie, even more Aspie that me and she consults me constantly for advice. Though some of it I am bewildered by like calling me to ask should she get her hair colored today or what day of the week she should get it done on.