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Have any of you been wrongly accused of shoplifting or had cops give you a hard time, bcause someone has complained or your actions are different?

And what to do about a neighbor who seems to think bcause you're different they have a right to watch you coming and going almost anytime of the day? Arghhh I caught her trying to snap pics of me with her cell phone I do really wonder what her problem is? Maybe she should sign up on a parnoid board somehwere Yeah she's weird.....

Well, one time I went into Spencer's all by myself, and the whole staff was hovering around me because they thought I was going to steal something, even though I had absolutely no intention of doing so.

Once, about ten years ago, I was stopped exiting a store and accused of shoplifting. I happily emptied my pockets, having done nothing wrong. After they realized I had not stolen anything, they still tried to trick me into saying that I had "tried" to steal something. When I would not fall for it, they got mad because they had already called the police and now had to tell them it was a false alarm. When they saw the police car pulling into the parking lot, they just turned around and walked away leaving me standing there...no apology, no nothing. It was very strange and I could not help but wonder what I had done to cause so much suspicion.

That is a rather bad experience. I know what you mean....I don't get it either???

One of my little-indulged obsessions is the look of abandoned buildings.

Two years ago I was downtown exploring a new mall that was built in what had once been an abandoned building, and at some point in the second floor I noticed that the third one had not been remodeled. It was just left empty. The stairs invited me to explore.

As soon as I began walking toward the stairs a guard approached me and asked what I wanted. I said (in my regional accent that betrays I'm not from this town) that I was only exploring the building because it was my first time there. He pointed out that there was nothing up there. I quietly left.

if someone accuses you of shoplifting and you haven't done anything simply ignore them and exit the store. They are not legally allowed to detain you outside.

For me it hasn't so much been accusations such as shop lifting, more so they just assume I'm a bad person. I got along well socially as a kid but as an adult I don't have the immaturity excuse for my lack of social skills with grown ups. This gets me into trouble.

I hate it when random people strike up a conversation with me at the store and try to tell me a lot about their personal life. I think it is inappropriate and its a lot of work for me to try to chat with them. I have to do this at work but when I'm off the clock its kind of my free reign to be me. Often I give one word answers and try to make it clear I'm not interested in talking. I have no idea how people could miss this? I'm an Aspie and I can figure that social hint! If this doesn't work I just ignore them.

This really makes people angry. It escalates quickly from "oh, you're just not going to talk now" to "oh, you're a stuck up c**t and just going to ignore me cause you think you're better than me!?" or they start teasing me because I won't respond. It doesn't take much to get other people to join in once they realize I'm a "freak." There was actually one day where three different ladies started spitting at me. One of them didn't even know the other two. After they start teasing or getting angry I frequently lose my temper and tell them I don't feel like talking but in a not very nice way. It makes me angry that their so upset because some stranger won't talk to them. Is that really that bad? Are their lives so easy that this is that big of a deal? Then comes the shouting match. When I'm angry I say the most hurtful things I can think of, whether I believe them or not. I just want to make the other person as angry as I am. Also I have a hard time seeing how the words of a total stranger can have that big of an impact on you so I don't hold back. This generally turns anyone within ear shot against me or it turns to violence. I've been forcefully removed from and banned from so many stores, I'm not even sure which I'm allowed to go to any more. I have to keep a list in the car. I've tried explaining that the other person started it but, when you're screaming like a crazy person and throwing things they don't generally believe it or care who started it.

Just makes you crazy doesn't it When in public I have two gears the "whatever I'm pissed" look which my husband hates, bcause he says it looks like he abuses me. And the I know "I look nervous and poor eyecontact look" which snowballs to talking fast and wanting to make the quickest exit possible. An absolute target for being guilty of something to store personel ect.

Oh and don't even get me started at what a freak I appear to be when I'm addressed by those in authority or even sometimes a basic conflict. I just want to scream the house down that only bcause my behavior or speech is different that makes me nutters or a bloomin' idgit. What I wouldn't give to see some of the NTs I've had a run in live even one months with all the concerns and problems of an aspie.

Thanks for letting me rant as you can see I'm still in the "I always knew something was wrong, but now I know it's lifelong autism" phase. sigh.