How much do people stress you out?

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I find it comes and goes. Some times I am ok for a a few days, and then I get so uptight with anger, frustration, stress etc that I think I am ready to go postal... then it calms down for awhile. You?

depends. I have noticed a certain tendency for some people to fight 'emotionally'. Suddenly you're boiling mad, and you have no idea how you got that way...

I can get along fine most times

Yes, it is a few days for me. If they say something that really pisses me off there in trouble.

yeah, it's a bit of a sinusoid for me as well. on a good day I can almost pass as NT

Same here . . . I usually don't get to the point of anger because I avoid as much as I can. It seems that people stress me out, and if I'm away from them the stress subsides, only to get more stressful when I'm around people again. People I know who I think accept me are usually OK for longer than people I don't know. New people are always like starting over until I've figured them out to the point I think I can predict how they will respond to me.

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It really depends on the people. I can be with my close friends without getting stressed out, unless they happen to be stressed or depressed themselves. But random people can be a problem. Sometimes I just can't deal with crowds and have to get out of them quickly or just go mad. It's odd, because sometimes when I go into town I'll feel that I'm stressed and a bit blue but somehow have no problem with all the scores of people brushing past me. At other times I'll think that I'm in a happy and easygoing mood but have it shredded to ribbons the first time someone bumps into me by accident.

Yes being around people stresses me out and I have to be alone to calm down. Some day are worse then others. I wish they would just go away and leave me alone

I'm starting to realize that even good interactions can leave me exhausted. A friendly conversation is still a conversation & it requires a lot of intellectual energy on my part to keep it together.

And the thing is, the better I get at having friendly conversations, the more people seem to want to have them with me - and the more it takes out of me, until I just have to shut it off for a few days - which I'm pretty sure confuses the hell out of people.

I wouldn't say I go postal, but I do go into meltdown mode which, for me, includes extreme depression. Right now I'm feeling that I'm headed that way. I can barely make it in to work and I'm neglecting all of my friends and family. I don't want to answer my phone, check my email or even just get out of bed.

I only go postal when people persist in doing something I've asked them not to do. Like tease, harass, or tickle me (for example).

More often than not! I work in customer service & my job is to assist people. But how can one assist someone who calls looking for a fight? I find my job more & more exhausting when people can't be nice or at least logical. I know it's easier for people to pick on someone they don't know. But sheesh. It's incredibly frustrating. That & a couple of people that I work with also are not at all helpful & I end up having to shoulder other people's jobs because they are too lazy to do their own.

I dread going in to work. I am aware that with our economy doing rapidly down the tubes that people are afraid. But why is it that they lash out in the most inappropriate ways at the very same person whom they turn to for help? WTF?

The thing to remember is that they are not looking for a fight with you personally. They are p$*!ed off about something and they want to let that out or put that on someone else rather than keeping it themselves. If you are in a position to accept the reasons they are frustrated and then in a position to do something about it with a smile on your face, they will calm down very quickly. If you are put in a position where you have no real power to affect change for the caller then you can't take that frustration away and solve it. Then they'll ask to speak to your supervisor

For me, the screaming at me, just tends to cause me to shut down. Then I am able to help no one. I have had customers/office workers who have made me cry...just because they are so nasty. I tend to be a people pleaser. My job is to get people information on their orders. Yet they go about it in a way that causes me to completely shut down. I understand that life is difficult & scary. I have personally had a lot to endure in my 46 years. Every morning that I wake up is scary to me. It's always been like that....knowing that this is another day that someone could verbally attack me. At least it's not physical anymore, but that's only changed since the past 5 years. It's impossible for me to get past old memories of being attacked physically/verbally/emotionally, it's also hard for me NOT to react strongly. If someone calls & is pleasant to deal with, I have no problem helping them out.

And add to that, dealing with a co-worker who makes my job harder just makes me wish I didn't have to wake up in the morning anymore. Of course, I have been wishing that since I was 9!