Frustrated and discouraged

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That kind of attack is so self-defeating it's funny. It's like they're just begging for their own arguments to be used against them. Oh, you want to talk to "a REAL live person with Autism"? OK, then I'll ignore you and go find a "REAL live PARENT of a person with Autism" (or grandparent, sibling, or whatever that person is). "Anyone can be who they want online"? So how do we know you are who you say you are? "Autism appears to be the new "goth""? So wouldn't that mean that being a "parent of a child with autism" is just another trendy sub-culture?

BTW, all of the above is intended as a criticism of the offending text, and nothing more. It does not necessarily reflect my actual attitudes or views on the subject matter being discussed (I don't think it's trendy to pose as an autistic person or the parent of an autistic person).

MJ, I have a long story about dealing with cyber-bullies. If you want me to post it, let me know.

Other than that, I will say what that person says about anyone being able to post anything online is true, but that applies to them too. Sometimes people will post anything they can that mocks or ridicules you, but it's not so that they can make fun of you.

They are addicted to attention. Think of them as the internet version of people with Manchausen's (have you heard of this?) They'll even kill babies and pretend that it was just a circumstance that they were around because they are addicted to the attention that it will give them.

So when someone blasts away at you and says something like "You are not who you claim to be", replace the word you in your head with the word I, so that it will be something like "I am not who I claim to be" and do not take it personally.

And do not respond or talk about them. When they see that, it will feed their need for attention. Just make like they posted nothing. They'll get desperate, which will make them many times more offensive, but they will show themselves for who they are and when they do not get the reaction they want after a while they will leave you alone.

At least those are my thoughts.

btw, what's the deal with AFF and AS? It seems like they're both hostile to each other.

Looked at your blog & bookmarked it-your writing is thoughtful & considerate, from my point of view.
Hard not to feel downtrodden & squashed when one's merely trying to do the right thing (using only written language) & reaction one gets is a disaster. It's really unfortunate & counterproductive that some people treat other people so poorly, online (and off).
Am not privy to what transpires on most other ASD sites, and from what I hear (in a few cases) that's a good thing. Condolences on being snarled at in words by someone who sounds angry & impossible to please.

I'm sorry for being MIA, but I did manage to have a peaceful discussion with the person who aggravated me originally. I feel better about that person now, and I hope they do towards me too. It is one of the fun challenges I try to do is resolve conflicts peacefully if I can. Now if I can do it all the time, that would be awesome, but I guess that would mean not being human...

Thanks everyone for your support. I don't believe everyone there is "hopeless" for lack of a better term, but there are a few that need some gentle reminders and poking... By poking I mean a gentle nudge and not a stab.

The best we can do is just the same. Try to be as peaceful and nonconfrontational as possible.

Well, at least you tried, right? if they don't like it you can move on.