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06 Jan 2014, 3:23 am

This is kind of tangentially related. I noticed in my teens I would be watched closely in stores. Over the years I think it caused me to also act suspiciously while shopping, like I'm too obvious at holding out products at a distance from my torso then placing them back in an exaggerated fashion if I choose not to buy them. My older brother didn't believe me until a big security guard was following me once so he said something to the guy :lol: then when we left the guy said it was okay, he didn't need to check our bags. I think that's come about initially from a look I have but then it became a feedback loop since because I didn't handle it properly or talk to anyone about it for a long time. To this day my girlfriend finds it almost impossible to get me into a shop if we're not going to buy anything. Not just because I find 'window shopping' pointless. I hate leaving without buying anything because I'm paranoid they'll think I stole something.



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06 Jan 2014, 10:26 am

Dan_Undiagnosed wrote:
This is kind of tangentially related. I noticed in my teens I would be watched closely in stores. Over the years I think it caused me to also act suspiciously while shopping, like I'm too obvious at holding out products at a distance from my torso then placing them back in an exaggerated fashion if I choose not to buy them. My older brother didn't believe me until a big security guard was following me once so he said something to the guy :lol: then when we left the guy said it was okay, he didn't need to check our bags. I think that's come about initially from a look I have but then it became a feedback loop since because I didn't handle it properly or talk to anyone about it for a long time. To this day my girlfriend finds it almost impossible to get me into a shop if we're not going to buy anything. Not just because I find 'window shopping' pointless. I hate leaving without buying anything because I'm paranoid they'll think I stole something.


I think this same kind of loop is why I have so many problems with the police. I am more worried every time that I run into them, which makes them more suspicious, which makes me even more nervous.


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06 Jan 2014, 8:34 pm

sonofghandi wrote:
Dan_Undiagnosed wrote:
This is kind of tangentially related. I noticed in my teens I would be watched closely in stores. Over the years I think it caused me to also act suspiciously while shopping, like I'm too obvious at holding out products at a distance from my torso then placing them back in an exaggerated fashion if I choose not to buy them. My older brother didn't believe me until a big security guard was following me once so he said something to the guy :lol: then when we left the guy said it was okay, he didn't need to check our bags. I think that's come about initially from a look I have but then it became a feedback loop since because I didn't handle it properly or talk to anyone about it for a long time. To this day my girlfriend finds it almost impossible to get me into a shop if we're not going to buy anything. Not just because I find 'window shopping' pointless. I hate leaving without buying anything because I'm paranoid they'll think I stole something.


I think this same kind of loop is why I have so many problems with the police. I am more worried every time that I run into them, which makes them more suspicious, which makes me even more nervous.


Yeah I could imagine a very similar thing happening with any type of authority figure. I've had more run ins with the police than I would have liked but it's always been very brief and not necessary to go through on a weekly if not daily basis like having to go shopping. I think things like our avoiding eye contact is a huge problem when trying to deal with people in authoritarian positions.