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11 Jan 2021, 11:54 am

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I'm not controlled by my parents but my parents live 2 streets away from me and my NT mum's greatest misery was leaving her home town & her greatest happiness about the last couple years is coming back to the same county as her dad. She lives with him two nights a week.

I think what is missing in a lot of cultures is family.

I didn't think this was a problem in Latinx culture but it's a problem in WASP America and WASP UK.

It's not normal or healthy. It's certainly not from the animal world. It came about because nuclear families are easier to move around the family than extended families are.

Most animals in the wild will live with their kin. Most people historically have done the same. Most people round the world do the same.

Ironically this is probably why ethnic minorities stick together. Even in a new place, they cling onto family.


THANK YOU! YES! Luckily I have a small but good family however sometimes I think we need to expand. What I like about black/hispanic culture is that many folk tend to make friends who are introduced via their family. For example Uncle Rico introduces you to his friends from work etc. I think WASP america should do this more. But we should start forming "families" as well kinda like the italian mafia lol or a "tribe"



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11 Jan 2021, 11:55 am

1. Please, refrain from personal remarks when discussing opinions;
2. Some WP members are content with their social lives. Others are not. Can we accept both as facts?


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11 Jan 2021, 11:56 am

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... Just like each autistic individuals, not all NTs are created individually equal...
Sadly, it is our inherent diversity that precludes a "One Size Fits All" solution, such as what the OP suggests.


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11 Jan 2021, 11:56 am

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... ADULTS need to form more deep relationships outside of what toys they like to play with.
Evidence, please?
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For example ASD should unite IRL based on job challenges, family heritage, or even income class.
Evidence, please?

Anyway, I thought you said you were done here.


Would I be out of line to think this guy just wants to rant about problems with absolutely no concern about how to possibly resolve them?



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11 Jan 2021, 11:57 am

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... Some WP members are content with their social lives. Others are not. Can we accept both as facts?
Soitinlee!

As I said, "One Size Fits All" is inapplicable to the "Aspie Problem".


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11 Jan 2021, 11:58 am

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bigNYC wrote:
... ADULTS need to form more deep relationships outside of what toys they like to play with.
Evidence, please?
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For example ASD should unite IRL based on job challenges, family heritage, or even income class.
Evidence, please?  Anyway, I thought you said you were done here.
Would I be out of line to think this guy just wants to rant about problems with absolutely no concern about how to possibly resolve them?
Probably; but you may not be too far off-target, either.


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11 Jan 2021, 12:00 pm

Again: Please, refrain from personal remarks, everyone.
Please :cat:


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11 Jan 2021, 12:00 pm

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... we should start forming "families" as well kinda like the italian mafia ...
Are you seriously proposing that we start "whacking" those who disagree with us?  Or should we just make them offers they cannot refuse?


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11 Jan 2021, 12:03 pm

magz wrote:
1. Please, refrain from personal remarks when discussing opinions;
2. Some WP members are content with their social lives. Others are not. Can we accept both as facts?



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11 Jan 2021, 12:04 pm

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Again: Please, refrain from personal remarks, everyone.
Please :cat:


we ASD need tough love! we are coddled too much and enabled in our self destructive ways. but it sounds like most ASD have chosen their path and their is literally nothing I can do about it.

-i guess I hope they are content in the choices they make I am DONE trying to help people here!



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11 Jan 2021, 12:06 pm

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... I am DONE trying to help people here!
You have said that at least once before.


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11 Jan 2021, 12:06 pm

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magz wrote:
Again: Please, refrain from personal remarks, everyone.
Please :cat:


we ASD need tough love! we are coddled too much and enabled in our self destructive ways. but it sounds like most ASD have chosen their path and their is literally nothing I can do about it.

-i guess I hope they are content in the choices they make

How much do you know about paths other ASD people chose?
Even the WP members active in this thread. How much do you know about life history of each of us?


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11 Jan 2021, 12:10 pm

bigNYC wrote:
magz wrote:
Again: Please, refrain from personal remarks, everyone.
Please :cat:


we ASD need tough love! we are coddled too much and enabled in our self destructive ways. but it sounds like most ASD have chosen their path and their is literally nothing I can do about it.

-i guess I hope they are content in the choices they make I am DONE trying to help people here!


What do you mean by being coddled? I have been bullied multiple times and would call being coddled a very precise opposite of the way I am treated.



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11 Jan 2021, 12:13 pm

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we ASD need tough love! we are coddled too much and enabled in our self destructive ways. but it sounds like most ASD have chosen their path and their is literally nothing I can do about it. -i guess I hope they are content in the choices they make I am DONE trying to help people here!
What do you mean by being coddled? I have been bullied multiple times and would call being coddled a very precise opposite of the way I am treated.
Same here.  Besides, "coddling" is the underlying theme of a support site like this one.  Many of us would not be here if we were not "coddled" in some small way.


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11 Jan 2021, 12:16 pm

Fnord wrote:
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we ASD need tough love! we are coddled too much and enabled in our self destructive ways. but it sounds like most ASD have chosen their path and their is literally nothing I can do about it. -i guess I hope they are content in the choices they make I am DONE trying to help people here!
What do you mean by being coddled? I have been bullied multiple times and would call being coddled a very precise opposite of the way I am treated.
Same here.  Besides, "coddling" is the underlying theme of a support site like this one.  Many of us would not be here if we were not "coddled" in some small way.


Maybe I misunderstood, but my thinking was he meant coddled IRL since that is the main thing he seems to be talking about. It is pretty relaxed here, but most of my IRL experience would mean a word the exact opposite of coddle.



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11 Jan 2021, 12:19 pm

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we ASD need tough love! we are coddled too much and enabled in our self destructive ways. but it sounds like most ASD have chosen their path and their is literally nothing I can do about it. -i guess I hope they are content in the choices they make I am DONE trying to help people here!
What do you mean by being coddled? I have been bullied multiple times and would call being coddled a very precise opposite of the way I am treated.
Same here.  Besides, "coddling" is the underlying theme of a support site like this one.  Many of us would not be here if we were not "coddled" in some small way.
Maybe I misunderstood, but my thinking was he meant coddled IRL since that is the main thing he seems to be talking about. It is pretty relaxed here, but most of my IRL experience would mean a word the exact opposite of coddle.
I have the same impression.  Let us wait for the OP to explain his point-of-view a little more clearly...


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