Effective Self Advocacy: Woman responds to Critics

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The most effective self advocacy effort I have seen in a long time:

http://gossiponthis.com/2012/09/27/balpreet-kaur-proud-sikh-woman-with-full-beard-gracefully-responds-internet-critics/

Woman responds to internet Critics, posting her picture with out her permission.

While this woman does not indicate she is on the spectrum, androgynous features are a studied element specific to Aspergers syndrome, as this is a general issue that some on the spectrum deal with. She is fortunate to be part of a culture that supports her.

You should be respectful, but firm. Don't back down or accept less than what you are entitled to. I used to settle for anything just to please those around me. I don't let stuff slide anymore. I think you should fight for your rights, but also be realistic and not expect perfection either.

Both.

Lack of anger makes you seem passive or "nice", and niceness is considered a weakness.

Respect is good, as long as it's along the lines of "You do your thing and I'll do mine", and not the kind of whining, fawning, fearful "respect" exhibited by those who know they're weak.

As Fnord said; both.

Telling them in a flat unemotional tone that you wont take it.

That was very cool.

I tend to run to obsequeous; if I push past it, rage.

I would love to be that cool.

Certainly start out respectfully, but if they continue, get tough.

An unfriendly sort of polite, calmness, maintaining one's boundaries, not seeking connections or dialogue. Disallow obsequiousness at any cost. Direct immediate confrontation of rudeness. however, do not bother confronting if an unimportant situation or person.