Hi,
I found this very nice article about small talk....it could be helpful for others
https://www.facebook.com/autismdiscussi ... 7573852748
Delayed vs. simultaneous processing
This post is a discussion with Karla, a friend of many on this page, and an exquisite writer of the autism experience. If you get a chance you must visit her page. In this post she explains some of the unique processing differences that she has to account for each day. She starts by relating with others is so less draining when it is based around her selected interests (topic based) and not around small talk. She has a built in language for topic based interacting, which is less draining. Next she goes into the concept of mental drainage in general and compensating for it. As always, Karla, your comments are very enlighting!
Karla's ASD Page
For me, it is like this Bill. I do better with topics of my special interest because I have language for those topics already and I can focus on stuff other than building language from the thousands of pictures, shapes and patterns that are otherwise in my head during conversations. I think that is primary reason why I prefer that.
I will have to admit that I abhore small talk. Not because it is impossible really but because I find it so useless. I do not have all the emotional/social phobia that NTs seem to have so this whole "getting to know you" thing that you do it beyond my understanding. I used to think it was ridiculous but now I understand it is more about you need to "feel" a certain comfort with strangers. I do not have that discomfort when I am talking to a stranger so will generally always just jump into the "meat" of a conversation.
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16 Apr 2013, 12:20 pm
