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matsuiny2004
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25 Mar 2008, 10:54 am

If an autistic child is not able to advocate for themselves is it ok if the parent takes responsibility for their choice?



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25 Mar 2008, 12:02 pm

matsuiny2004 wrote:
If an autistic child is not able to advocate for themselves is it ok if the parent takes responsibility for their choice?


Can you clarify? Why/how is the child not able to advocate? How old is the child?



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25 Mar 2008, 12:53 pm

an extreme case like rainman autism



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25 Mar 2008, 4:37 pm

matsuiny2004 wrote:
If an autistic child is not able to advocate for themselves is it ok if the parent takes responsibility for their choice?


What would you do for a nt child of the same age? Most people would seek input from a child and take that into account. Children might require decisions broken down into essential parts eg in a divorce the overall question might be about which parent will have them for a majority of the time. The child should not be asked to choose between parents but could be given some attributes of living in each place to choose from eg to continue swimming lessons will need to live with mum. to be closer to grandma will need to live with dad. That way a person who uses PECS can indicate choice. A person who is not able to indicate choices will show by behaviour. You will know which gets more excitement - going swimming or going to grandma. These are examples only and you would need to provide examples from your own situation.