Women wearing yoga pants=female equivalent of men wearing

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18 Dec 2012, 6:03 pm

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Yep. I dunno, dressing is hard to figure out. I've gone to the gym wearing dress pants and a polo shirt before and done clean and jerks in them. Needless to say, I don't know "situationally appropriate" clothes too well.


Lol, I do the opposite of that. I wear gym clothes, hiking boots, and a huge coat over my backpack all day. It rains a lot where I live, so I have to adapt to keep my feet dry, plus I hit up the gym before and after school. I pay for it at school though, a lot of people there dress way better than me.

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Having some consideration for these things makes people feel more comfortable with us, more attracted to us (both as friends or as lovers), and less apprehensive towards approaching us.


I can't say I personally pick up on style deviations, but I also know better than to go out in khakis, pants with "tapered" legs, or hawaiian shirts, because of the feedback I get. There's definitely a range of acceptable attire for guys in my demographic.



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18 Dec 2012, 10:25 pm

MDD123 wrote:
I can't say I personally pick up on style deviations, but I also know better than to go out in khakis, pants with "tapered" legs, or hawaiian shirts, because of the feedback I get. There's definitely a range of acceptable attire for guys in my demographic.


That gave me a funny picture! :P

I think it's important to know how people will receive how you dress. This is because it's very unpleasant to, on top of being made fun of, to not expect that might happen. This isn't to say conformism is better. At the end of the day, it's a personal choice -- and one that sometimes must be made in accordance with whatever one's individual needs are (i.e. if they're hypersensitive, allergic to things, have to wear certain garments for health reasons, etc.).

Personally, I dressed in many different ways in high school. Some days, teachers would compliment me on the pants suit I was wearing, other days, the principal would tell me to take off my spiked collar because it's considered a weapon and wasn't allowed in school (understandably, that only happened once because then I wasn't allowed). People made fun of me, but they did anyway...all the time...and about things that didn't even make any sense -- not that making fun of me for what I was wearing made sense, but the other things made even less sense to me. Through a mixture of being a bit too socially naive to notice every time it was happening and too much of a free-thinker to care what they thought, I made it through fairly intact. All of that experience being made fun of, and I still don't understand why people would make fun of anyone, though. Most cruelty is beyond me, though...


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21 Dec 2012, 2:30 am

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Leggings, skinny jeans, and yoga pants should require an application and license to wear...or at least proof of ownership of a large mirror. They are worn as stand alone pants here all the time. It seems that people forget that the stretchy fabric is not one solid substance and one size does not fit all, which at times can be amusing and other times it's very, very disturbing.

Skinny jeans are a paradox: if you look good in them you don't need them; if you are trying to look slimmer in them, you are probably not fooling anybody. Fat cannot compress like air and has to go somewhere-often creating a disproportionately huge butt and skinny legs, a lot like a Despicable Me character.


Almost no one looks good in skinny jeans. It's hard to understand the thought processes of most people who wear skinny jeans.



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21 Dec 2012, 12:10 pm

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Almost no one looks good in skinny jeans. It's hard to understand the thought processes of most people who wear skinny jeans.


Men in skinny Jeans "Girls wear these! So they must like them! Let's wear salmon pink ones!" Or "I'm not quite ready to admit am gay but I'll drop hints."

Girls in Skinny jeans "These make me look skinny! Buy all jeans!"


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21 Dec 2012, 1:58 pm

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btbnnyr wrote:
Almost no one looks good in skinny jeans. It's hard to understand the thought processes of most people who wear skinny jeans.


Men in skinny Jeans "Girls wear these! So they must like them! Let's wear salmon pink ones!" Or "I'm not quite ready to admit am gay but I'll drop hints."

Girls in Skinny jeans "These make me look skinny! Buy all jeans!"


I had forgotten that men wear skinny jeans too. Yuck.



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21 Dec 2012, 2:33 pm

Urgh, yes another downvote for men wearing skinny jeans. Not sure which is worse - too much information or not enough information!



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23 Dec 2012, 7:23 pm

I didn't really know what y'all talking about, I would have thought they would be loose fitting.

The look like spandex to me, which isn't as old as yoga.

I guess if they are comfortable, there are plenty of men who would find this titillating, and I'm not one of them.



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27 Dec 2012, 12:58 pm

I'm more of an "I won't show you mine, so don't show me yours" dresser. And if you do show me yours, I'll point and laugh. :P But I do have a fondness for slimmer-fitting jeans--and long, loose tops.


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28 Dec 2012, 7:17 pm

I am uncomfortable wearing yoga pants outside of my home because of the BS attitude that the asses of women in yoga pants are public property.

Astonishingly, I didn't think of other people when getting dressed until it started getting to me when dudes would say things to me about my body. So as much as it eats away at me that I do it, I now have a mental checklist when deciding what to wear in order to avoid the attention of some dude twice my age in a frickin grocery store or whatever.

Better than getting so grossed out I have to leave and head home to take ten showers and scream profanities into my pillow.


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30 Dec 2012, 2:47 am

My yoga pants look like really worn-out dress pants, but they're incredibly comfortable and lots of people have asked where I bought them. I wear them most of the time because I can't stand pants in other materials.



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30 Dec 2012, 5:57 am

plenty of tribes in the Amazon have women who walk around naked, or near-naked, all day long, and somehow the men (also naked or near-naked) don't implode and manage to go about their business. If you think that yoga pants are hot, it's because you aren't used to seeing them.

When I was in crew at Oregon State, I frequently walked to practice (like many of my teammates) in bike shorts and a tshirt. It wasn't to attract anyone, though we got lots of stares. but because we needed clothing that wouldn't get caught in the slides of our seats and that would be as cool as possible because rowing is hot work. I rowed because I enjoyed it, not because of the uniform. Guys, it's not about you.



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08 Jan 2013, 6:01 am

I wear yoga pants because either a) I'm doing a sporting activity or b) I'm going to be lying on the sofa watching tv and want to be comfy.


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08 Jan 2013, 1:56 pm

Going by responses in this thread, you'd think it never occured to any woman ever to dress in a way that showed off her body. And that every single time a woman puts on a garment that shows off her breasts or butt, it is entirely on accident.

Which is, let's admit it, ridiculous.

We're all aspies here. We tend make decisions without giving much thought to (or understanding) the social impact of those decisions. Including women's (men's too, but the focus of this discussion is women) decisions on what to wear.

But let's not apply our motives (or lack thereof) to the behavior of the population as a whole. There are women out there, very many of them in fact, whose entire wardrobes are selected based on how sexy they think they will look. I'd guess that most women (most men as well but, again, the focus of this discussion is on women) have at least one or two articles of clothing that they like to wear because they believe it makes them more sexually attractive.

Commenting on this phenomenon is not implying that literally everyone participates in it.



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08 Jan 2013, 5:55 pm

Yes, the feminazi outcry in this thread is outrageous and over the top. :P


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08 Jan 2013, 7:30 pm

Did I say feminazi?

Did I say anything about feminism at all?

Did I say anything even remotely anti-female?

Is the idea that very often people do present themselves in a manner meant to draw the opposite gender's attention really so controversial?



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08 Jan 2013, 7:40 pm

Ai meu deus, calma!

Everyone take it easy. I'm pretty sure neither was implying what you thought they were implying.

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Going by responses in this thread, you'd think it never occured to any woman ever to dress in a way that showed off her body. And that every single time a woman puts on a garment that shows off her breasts or butt, it is entirely on accident.

Which is, let's admit it, ridiculous.

We're all aspies here. We tend make decisions without giving much thought to (or understanding) the social impact of those decisions. Including women's (men's too, but the focus of this discussion is women) decisions on what to wear.

But let's not apply our motives (or lack thereof) to the behavior of the population as a whole. There are women out there, very many of them in fact, whose entire wardrobes are selected based on how sexy they think they will look. I'd guess that most women (most men as well but, again, the focus of this discussion is on women) have at least one or two articles of clothing that they like to wear because they believe it makes them more sexually attractive.

Commenting on this phenomenon is not implying that literally everyone participates in it.


I have to give you something - it's true I made decisions without thought or care for the social impact of them - especaiily clothing. Probab;y an aspie thing.

But probably also the attitude similar of a girl who really doesn't care what people think and isn't after anyones approval or validation - which was the point meems was making - there are quite a few of them too who aren't necessary aspie.


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