Women wearing yoga pants=female equivalent of men wearing
Lol, I do the opposite of that. I wear gym clothes, hiking boots, and a huge coat over my backpack all day. It rains a lot where I live, so I have to adapt to keep my feet dry, plus I hit up the gym before and after school. I pay for it at school though, a lot of people there dress way better than me.
I can't say I personally pick up on style deviations, but I also know better than to go out in khakis, pants with "tapered" legs, or hawaiian shirts, because of the feedback I get. There's definitely a range of acceptable attire for guys in my demographic.
That gave me a funny picture!
I think it's important to know how people will receive how you dress. This is because it's very unpleasant to, on top of being made fun of, to not expect that might happen. This isn't to say conformism is better. At the end of the day, it's a personal choice -- and one that sometimes must be made in accordance with whatever one's individual needs are (i.e. if they're hypersensitive, allergic to things, have to wear certain garments for health reasons, etc.).
Personally, I dressed in many different ways in high school. Some days, teachers would compliment me on the pants suit I was wearing, other days, the principal would tell me to take off my spiked collar because it's considered a weapon and wasn't allowed in school (understandably, that only happened once because then I wasn't allowed). People made fun of me, but they did anyway...all the time...and about things that didn't even make any sense -- not that making fun of me for what I was wearing made sense, but the other things made even less sense to me. Through a mixture of being a bit too socially naive to notice every time it was happening and too much of a free-thinker to care what they thought, I made it through fairly intact. All of that experience being made fun of, and I still don't understand why people would make fun of anyone, though. Most cruelty is beyond me, though...
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Skinny jeans are a paradox: if you look good in them you don't need them; if you are trying to look slimmer in them, you are probably not fooling anybody. Fat cannot compress like air and has to go somewhere-often creating a disproportionately huge butt and skinny legs, a lot like a Despicable Me character.
Almost no one looks good in skinny jeans. It's hard to understand the thought processes of most people who wear skinny jeans.
Men in skinny Jeans "Girls wear these! So they must like them! Let's wear salmon pink ones!" Or "I'm not quite ready to admit am gay but I'll drop hints."
Girls in Skinny jeans "These make me look skinny! Buy all jeans!"
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Men in skinny Jeans "Girls wear these! So they must like them! Let's wear salmon pink ones!" Or "I'm not quite ready to admit am gay but I'll drop hints."
Girls in Skinny jeans "These make me look skinny! Buy all jeans!"
I had forgotten that men wear skinny jeans too. Yuck.
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I am uncomfortable wearing yoga pants outside of my home because of the BS attitude that the asses of women in yoga pants are public property.
Astonishingly, I didn't think of other people when getting dressed until it started getting to me when dudes would say things to me about my body. So as much as it eats away at me that I do it, I now have a mental checklist when deciding what to wear in order to avoid the attention of some dude twice my age in a frickin grocery store or whatever.
Better than getting so grossed out I have to leave and head home to take ten showers and scream profanities into my pillow.
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plenty of tribes in the Amazon have women who walk around naked, or near-naked, all day long, and somehow the men (also naked or near-naked) don't implode and manage to go about their business. If you think that yoga pants are hot, it's because you aren't used to seeing them.
When I was in crew at Oregon State, I frequently walked to practice (like many of my teammates) in bike shorts and a tshirt. It wasn't to attract anyone, though we got lots of stares. but because we needed clothing that wouldn't get caught in the slides of our seats and that would be as cool as possible because rowing is hot work. I rowed because I enjoyed it, not because of the uniform. Guys, it's not about you.
Going by responses in this thread, you'd think it never occured to any woman ever to dress in a way that showed off her body. And that every single time a woman puts on a garment that shows off her breasts or butt, it is entirely on accident.
Which is, let's admit it, ridiculous.
We're all aspies here. We tend make decisions without giving much thought to (or understanding) the social impact of those decisions. Including women's (men's too, but the focus of this discussion is women) decisions on what to wear.
But let's not apply our motives (or lack thereof) to the behavior of the population as a whole. There are women out there, very many of them in fact, whose entire wardrobes are selected based on how sexy they think they will look. I'd guess that most women (most men as well but, again, the focus of this discussion is on women) have at least one or two articles of clothing that they like to wear because they believe it makes them more sexually attractive.
Commenting on this phenomenon is not implying that literally everyone participates in it.
Yes, the feminazi outcry in this thread is outrageous and over the top.
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Everyone take it easy. I'm pretty sure neither was implying what you thought they were implying.
Which is, let's admit it, ridiculous.
We're all aspies here. We tend make decisions without giving much thought to (or understanding) the social impact of those decisions. Including women's (men's too, but the focus of this discussion is women) decisions on what to wear.
But let's not apply our motives (or lack thereof) to the behavior of the population as a whole. There are women out there, very many of them in fact, whose entire wardrobes are selected based on how sexy they think they will look. I'd guess that most women (most men as well but, again, the focus of this discussion is on women) have at least one or two articles of clothing that they like to wear because they believe it makes them more sexually attractive.
Commenting on this phenomenon is not implying that literally everyone participates in it.
I have to give you something - it's true I made decisions without thought or care for the social impact of them - especaiily clothing. Probab;y an aspie thing.
But probably also the attitude similar of a girl who really doesn't care what people think and isn't after anyones approval or validation - which was the point meems was making - there are quite a few of them too who aren't necessary aspie.
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