Why do people ignore you when you're depressed?

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does this thread make anyone else feel worse?

Maybe depressed people aren't trying to dump on everyones parade, its kind of hard to act happy when you feel like absolute crap. I guess this is why I feel people should be much more educated about mental illness especially how real it is, how painful it can be and how its not something we can just turn off.

and also that professional help is in short supply especially if your mental illness interferes with your ability to make income.

I don't want anyone to take offense, and I was not directing this at anyone specific.....just pointing out some problems for discussion purposes.

Because people are selfish.

I would ignore myself when I'm depressed, if it were possible. That's a confusing thought, but there it is.

I'm unpleasant when I'm depressed.
I'm often nervous, anxious and can take offense to random things when I'm depressed.
I unintentionally cause offense far more often when I'm depressed.
I am blunt and matter-of-fact, prone to wallowing in self-doubt, and have nothing positive to say when I'm depressed.
I tend to hate myself when I'm depressed, and the effect I have on others serves to magnify it.

I'd rather isolate myself in a little box somewhere out-of-the-way. I'm glad people ignore me when I'm depressed because the only consequence of the alternative is to worry that I might be making other people miserable, which doesn't help me feel better.

True about fairweather friends. In high school i was so depressed for years, like the walking dead. What I really needed was a true friend and not people who went off on their own cool kids club.

People who really know how to help depressed people have been there and aren't the type who are high and mighty of themselves..

The diff between clinical and non clinical... Clinical is caused by chemistry... but is imo triggered by psychological like realizing you have a disability or the disability is causing you to not function ie ASD. Then the cycle of thoughts start like, "I'm not good enough to be alive because I'm not normal"

I am becoming depressed my self realizing I can't function in college like my peers, and that i didnt and dont have the life they have ie living on their own in an apt., getting life skills, etc. It is really sad because its talent and a life flushed down the drain. imo depression is a sign that you need to change your life but like the other mental illnesses it has the paradox effect of crippling your will to survive and function..

What I realized to pull me out of dep is not be too highly conscious of my self or actions or other peoples behavior ie RUMINATING... But conscious enough to plan and decide what to do next... in a positive attitude..

Negative people sucks energy. And if the positive vs. negative from a individu is out of balans, than we got a problem.

Humans are selfish. Other people are merely assets for us, no matter how much we tell ourselves that we love them. In our minds, they exist to make us feel good. If they fail to do that, they are no longer worth bothering with.

We might make a weak attempt to fix them. Tell them to pull themselves together, to look at the bright side or whatever, all those hollow and pointless phrases that don't really help anybody. But when their depression persists, we decide that they're just buzzkills or energy-sucking vampires and keep our distance. We think that's fully justified. It's their own fault if they're always so morbid and negative.

And when they jump off a rooftop, we even have the gall to feel hurt. They did something to us, even if the car they landed on belonged to somebody else. They robbed us of their presence, us, the center of the universe. It's human nature.

I had episodes of deep depression and without any support system at home my parents and sibling were non communicative and they were abusive

I remember during one such episode i was quite depressed and trying hard to concentrate in my college lessons. one of my classmate called me to her place and said why i act so depressed do i need sympathy from other people that is why i was acting like that.......believe me it hurt so badly.

Even i feel depressed person needs someone to help them and listen to them. But there is point beyond which we cant help them like when they mention that they feel suicidal, when they take help of alcohol to suppress their pain.

When i was reading tarot for people i used to get lot of depressed people mostly their extra martial affair was not working out, or they were involved in some wrong thing which was not working out and though we advice them good things they are adamant to carry the bad activity.

I try to help people who are down, and I have had some pretty serious depression myself. But at some point I just have to say" This person is not doing anything to remedy their situation, and is sucking the joy and confidence out of my life" Maybe that sounds selfish but charity begins at home. If you're making my depression worse, I 'll only put up with you for so long.

Thought i would mention something on this as it also affects me and it also happens to me.

I tend to find all of my friends are self centered and tend to think of themselves all the time , therefore they are selfish and uncaring. The other evening when i tried to commit suicide by strangling myself with my belt i sent messages and a picture of me with a belt hanging around my neck. In this scenario there was no reply , now you see my point , but when i try to talk to people they only want me to know about their girlfriend or it has to be about how they are and how they feel. I find that i can't get my word in edgeways and that my mates don't understand and that they should go and put their head in a bucket. When i talked to someone they said , 'You know im going to pompey with my gf' i was like , wtf mate i couldn't care less about your gf , hello i am here you div. I don't really know why i am friends with him and can't forgive him for his actions against me which are inexcusable.

If you best mate or mate was telling you he was hanging himself with his belt you would try your best to help him right , well i hope you would , i still see him although i know he couldn't care less if i jumped off a cliff. My mate also talks about his motor racing when i talk to him and he won't talk me either , they are probably waiting for me to grow up , f**k em , who needs idiots for mates or people who are self centerd twats.

And they say Autistic people lack empathy?

I hope sometime in the future people learn how to take care of and rehabilitate depressed people because as far as I'm concerned these are still the dark ages of societal support for people suffering depression.