Anyone feel offended when people tell you to get a job?

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i have autism but paralell i have depression too, for years. i cant get a job cause i have serious problem to chat with people and deal with the public. i feel extremely anxious all the time. theres some people that say, that just lies of me to not work, and if i work all my problems would vanish. i had no answer to that ignorant and selfish statement. what you guys think?

i have clinical depression and gender identity disorder. and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. plenty of precious little "people" told me to get a job or had the nerve to ask why I did not have a job. some of them were well meaning, or trying to help. some were just condescending. they were not necessarily meaning to be ignorant or selfish. however, it is also not illegal to be ignorant or selfish.

a couple years ago, someone asked me for money and i told him where the soup kitchen was and he acted offended. quite frankly, i was trying to help.

but whatever.

so now, i just ignore them. b/c yes, i do feel offended sometimes when someone tells me to get a job. or something like that. (fine).

however, anyone could get offended by anything, and any statement could get labelled as ignorant or selfish.

the other thing is, of course, since i myself am autisic, a lot of the time i say or do something NTs grossly misunderstand. they act like i was ignorant or selfish and they act offended. sometimes they are right, sometimes they are wrong. sometimes it is subjective.

but big deal.

when someone offends me, i do not act like they invented the world's most severe felony. so what if they are ignorant or selfish? anything could get labelled ignorant or selfish.

but when i do something they do not like. (rolls eyes). they act like they have a moral right to respond in any way they want.

and now i am 34 years old.

quite frankly, a disproportionate number of precious little "people" i have interacted with, i fear and/or hate.