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17 Sep 2012, 11:23 am

I need help too better manage meltodwns/shutdowns.

any tips on small steps i can take? I heard shutdowns/metldowns can varey in intensity i suppouse depending on how old you are? For instance in my teens my meltdowns started and now at almost 23 years old my meltdowns/shutdowns are at its worst ever :( Although i did occasionally get meltdowns/shutdowns between ages 12-14 they really did start too get much worse at ages 15-16, calmed down a bit between ages 17-20 but got all of a sudden got worse in my early 20's.

I am not sure if i have reached the peak of my sensory problems at this point in time or not? I know maybe lifestyle factors and even seansons could have an impact?

PS i have not been working or been at college for a little over 2 years now. could that have something too do with it? i have started looking for a job now though.



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17 Sep 2012, 2:02 pm

Are you aware of what triggers your meltdowns/shut downs? As I've gotten older I've learned to recognize my triggers better and spot the early signs that a meltdown is coming. If I recognize the signs early enough, I try to remove myself from the triggering situation or at least recognize what's happening and get myself to a quiet private place to ride it out/recover. It's not always possible but at least being aware of the causes has helped me feel a little more in control of the situation when it does happen (even if that just means I'm in control falling down a big dark hole).


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17 Sep 2012, 2:08 pm

0utsideLookingIn wrote:
Are you aware of what triggers your meltdowns/shut downs? As I've gotten older I've learned to recognize my triggers better and spot the early signs that a meltdown is coming. If I recognize the signs early enough, I try to remove myself from the triggering situation or at least recognize what's happening and get myself to a quiet private place to ride it out/recover. It's not always possible but at least being aware of the causes has helped me feel a little more in control of the situation when it does happen (even if that just means I'm in control falling down a big dark hole).


me feeling short or shorter than usual around other people is what triggers my meltdowns. so its unavoidable i am afraid :(

basically my insecruties about my physical height is what causes my meltdowns. removing my triggers would be like saying be on your own for the rest of your life.



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17 Sep 2012, 2:11 pm

Ah, that's a hard one then. Hopefully some other folks will jump in with suggestions about managing meltdowns when you can't avoid the triggering feeling. I haven't managed to learn that trick yet. :)


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