Having better control?

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I can't control my temper.... what lifestyle habits etc can i do too have better control oveer it?

Have you tried medication?
I have a terrible temper. I turn it inwards though and as a result am covered in scars. I've been medicated for over two years now and I have found that the extremes of my emotions have been curbed. I am a far more reasonable person because of it.
If you don't want to, or if medicine has failed you, I'm not sure what to suggest. I know that feeling of rage and violence . . . perhaps getting as far away from what is causing it as possible. If you take yourself out of the situation, you may gain more perspective.

Well, first, take a look at what sets off your temper and what you find calming.

Try to avoid triggers if you can. No sense putting yourself in a bad situation unnecessarily.

If you can't avoid the situation, try immediately doing something you find calming. Or at the very least redirecting your anger in a less harmful manner. For example, while talking to someone who angers you, carry a pad of paper and try to write your angry statement instead of saying it.

Also remember that this will not work overnight. Non-medication interventions are gradual - but on the good side, when they work, they tend to be more permanent as well.

I found that meditation and indulging in hobbies were very helpful when I was bullied in primary school. Avoiding what makes you angry would also be wise and I find that tea is quite relaxing as well. As for immediate solutions, just try breathe deeply and think of something that makes you happy.

apart from what has already been suggested, have you tried cognitive behaviour therapy? Adjusting your expectations of yourself and others? Being able to reason with yourself? This is the way to feel more in control of your temper. Do you see things in black and white? This can often trigger a temper.