Can my mom have BPD?

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I am a an aspie for sure, I was diagnosed at 11 and suffer with overload sensorial my entire life. But I did heard a lot of things about females with aspergers being misdiagnosed with BPD, I was wondering if the other way would be possible. I know my mon has something, I just never could really figure out what it was, and I imagined that some of her traits fits my own behaviour and we are genetic related, so that she would be in the austism spectrum, but others never made any sense to me.
Since I started reading more about BPD, I would say, she definetely fits. She has the "splitting" thing of sometimes thinking i am the best person in the world, others thinking i am completely evil, she does the same to my father and her sister in a lower intensity. She treated suicide so many times that nowadays, none of us really believes her anymore, but one time she even stole my meds to do so, and hide them in the christmas arregments (it wasnt christmas, she just put it there), and when we finaly found the stuff months later, she denied doing so, and said i put in there to say bad things about her, and she really believed so. She usually twisted the facts in a way that makes her the vitcim, but she never does it on purpose, because she actually suffers a lot with those things, like much more them if she hadnt twisted the facts in the first place. That fact used to made me think she had the worst ToM in the world, way worst them mine, but now i see that maybe it has nothing to do with austim. she also has a extremely poor self-image, but now and them she is goes extremely narcisist. she is without any doubt the most impulsive person that ive ever met. She is usually so afraid that she will be abandoned that she screams at me by never visiting, even when i am visiting her, and one time she said i didnt go to her house had 3 months, when in fact i had seened her 8 hours before, but she said like it was the completely true.
She has a lot of possitive traids too, and anyone that gets to know her for just a few hours thinks she is the most amazing person in the world (no exageration in here), and she is highly creative regarting costemics (her profession) and furniture design (her hobby) when she isnt passing for a depressive phase.
She is completely afraid of doctors and teraphist, so, I know she will never get a proper diagnose, but i want to know because i want to figure out how to better deal with her.

So, that is my questions, acording to those thing, does she have BPD? Can a mom with BPD have a kid with asperger's ( i mean, is it genetic possible?)

and i am sure i am not the one that has BPD, that happened to be misdiagnose and been twisting the facts without my own knowlegde, i am sure of that, first because i do have overload sensorial, special interests and shutdowns (things that dont happened to her), I am not impulsive at all, and i was never called evil, while she had being called evil by my father quite a few times.

I think that exists in my family.

I have a bachelor's degree in psychology and psychopathology is one of my special interests. I also have a few years experience working in the mental health field.

I don't know if your mom has borderline personality disorder or not. However, borderline personality disorder is usually caused by growing up in an abusive home. If she fits the symptoms in the DSM, then I guess she has it.

Asperger's Syndrome is totally independent of borderline personality disorder. It is genetic, a neurological abnormality, not necessarily a mental illness.

Asperger's Syndrome and borderline personality disorder are not mutually exclusive. In fact, I have been diagnosed as borderline. I grew up in an abusive home. My mom is autistic and so am I. Asperger's and borderline personality disorder are two separate issues for me and I deal with them separately.

thanks for your answer, em_tsuj.
She hasnt had an abusive childhood, but her first husband was an alcoholic and violent, she divorced him have almost 30 years, and my father always said her personality has nothing to do with him, but we had to be patient with her because of what she has been through. He is a great guy, very patient, and he really love her, so guess that is the reason they are still together.

I have borderline PD and that doesn't sound like it. To be honest, I don't think she does have it. And your description of it honestly just makes it sound like the stereotyped disorder it really isn't.

I only put the stuff that I saw in the diagnose criteria, of course that is not her complete description, if that wasnt clear. I deeply love her, and i and just trying to understand her behaviour to make our relationship easy, that is all.

Otherside, some people with BPD do fit the stereotype. They aren't necessarily bad people, but some do fit.

My mother is one example. I strongly suspect my mother is an undiagnosed borderline. I also think I am, too. However, before I developed all of the symptoms due to her abuse, I think ASD was missed when I was a little girl. I'm confident one can have both. While it's true BPD may also have a neurological basis, it can often be triggered by trauma.

To but it in other words: What would happen to an aspie who was severely abused and abandoned emotionally by their abuser? Or, what would happen if an aspie has no clue how to socialize, and learned behaviors from their BPD parent? It's entirely possible they would develop BPD. There is even a subtype of BPD that looks oddly similar to ASD. A person with Asperger's might be more likely to be the reclusive, "acting in" type of BPD.