Gay Aspergers !

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Every group always says that about every other group. I've been in enough groups to notice that they can't all be right, and something else must be going on. The only other common factor, then, is me.

However, if I ever bring up the the suggestion that they are not as open as they think, then I am almost yelled at.

I recently turned 28. I have alot of coping skills, and can largely hide my autism. However, my most used coping mechanism is a sophisticated form of avoidance, in that I can be around people, and even talk to them, while carefully avoiding any complicated socialization. I try to use this less, so the effect is that I merely appear confused. More so, I am simply not normal. They do not discriminate against me because they identify me as autistic. They don't accept me because I am me.

There are tons of homosexuals, bisexuals, and asexuals on WP. (I'm gay myself) So, it is very possible that there is a link between AS and alternate sexualities.

if there are tonnes!... we should get our own section of the forum! haha...

and to Mystyc...

Well thats really rubbish of an LGBT group... do you go to any AS groups?... i recently found out there was one at my uni, tho i'd be too shy to actually go to it!

I see, so you try to hide it a bit, i guess i do that a bit, tho round different people i can act differently...
But you mainly struggle with the social side?... like me... i just can't read body language too well... tho i do really try to!!

Thats the thing. i think i can read body language really well. I think like i am gifted at it. I am not shy joining an aspie group. I cant wait to join an apsie group.
I love men now and have done for along time but i was thinking when i was in highschool i didnt like boys and i was in love with a other girl. A couple of years ago i really liked this other woman. She liked me too. She used to slap me on the ass when i walked past and blow kisses. I would wink at her and slapped her back. She gave me this kiss. i did this really pretty colouring in that i loved her and she goes 'oh my favorite colour'
She already had a gf but i really liked her and she did me too.
She would go isnt she so beautiful.
Then i had this other gf and we use to kiss and say cute things to each other. I have never had sex with a other woman. Like oral sex. I have done other things and i wondering wether i am bi or not, I am not sure.

if you enjoy women and men, then you are probably bi. Which is a good position to be in.
On the otherhand, during the teenage years peoples hormones are all over the place, and you may have just fancied anything that came your way.

how do you feel right now, is there a boy or girl that you like?

Well, I'm going to conclude that NT- gays irl are mostly shallow people based on above posts. Though, I kinda concluded that on my own based on experiences too. I think I'm gonna never pursue a real life relationship at all, I can't stand to be hurt by people who are supposed to be accepting. Unless there's a gay aspie out therem, but obvs. really really rare. Anyway, just noticed most NT - gays' flamboyant nature, many are naturally very social. I don't think they can be open-minded enough to WANT an aspie lol. I say why bother . . .

I think I'm going to be asexual. Or some day find a gay aspie, but that's nearly impossible.

I happen to be Gay myself.. so we are out there

wha... babysit you, yeah they are not good.. that sounds a lil selfish and thinking "oh I should ditch him, but be nice about it as best as I can" I would not care if you did have autisum. Hey I do too as well

I have mild autism and i think I am bi. Actually i am pretty sure. Its just that some butch women scare me.

I am gay. It seems hard to meet a guy I feel secure with. I've met a few, but I don't have any dating skills.
There is one guy in my culinary arts class who I feel very secure with. Usually I don't like people touching me too much, but I love it when he gives hugs, or rests his arms on me

(As for the term 'aspie', I like to say 'assburger'. I have no clue why...)

I'm gay and I find it hard for other guys to notice me... 1st because I don't give out a "gay-vibe-signal-thing" (even tho I'm out) and because I don't know how to give out those signals (ok, I do know how to, but I do not know how to do it... technically?), and 2nd because even tho I'm not ugly, I'm not that much of an eye-catcher either...

The only guys I seem to attract are insecure shallow idiots who think I'm brainless...

ACK!
I have this guy that stalks me at school. I feel scared around him, and insecure. And, he touches my legs! I don't like people touching me at all unless I've known them and feel secure around them.
Also he talks about sex too much, after knowing him for only 2 days. Sex with strangers creeps me out. Ugh.

Hmmm, well Aspies are well known that they don't like to be touched... though i guess he doesn't know that...

And no sex with strangers can't be brill, tho alot of gays do that kind of thing!

And "sisyphusstone"... well i'm sure you are eye catching, you have to gain that self confidence, and then you can gain confidence to meet other new people, and maybe you be the one to make the first move

and well, try to avoid the shallow ones!!

Argh, yes! There used to be this guy who had a "crush" on me, and he kept asking me stuff about my sexual life... it was both annoying and disturbing. And what annoys me the most is that most of guys like that think they can have me just because of how I am...

The only eyes I "catch" are some girl's eyes... some girls have told me that I'm cute but no guy has ever told me that (apart from these shallow creepy idiots...).

I'm asexual, or close to it, but otherwise attracted to men. (i.e. I'm gay, but not really all that interested in sex.)

I'm bi, I'm sure I prefer guys though I could go for a smart introverted open-minded girl too. Every AS adult I've met so far has been either not straight, or in some serious denial, i.e. they hang around me a lot and talk about sex and drop hints and stuff, but when the topic is brought up, "oh no no NO there's no way I'm gay!" etc.

Other people who don't know me too well don't guess it though because outwardly I act very formally, am not very expressive emotionally (except I guess I tend to look angry or upset all the time even though I'm not), dress conservatively, and others claim I talk eloquently but formal... when I do talk. I can fake a "man's man" persona although I can't stand it, I'm too much a big softy on the inside.