How "out" are you?

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While I do not go around introducing myself by saying something like, "Hello there, I am Dossa and I am bisexual".... I think everyone knows I am bi. I have dated women and not hid it. My family, friends, and former co-workers have known this about me. It is not a thing I am shy about... I have been attracted to both males and females for as long as I can recall... I came out before I knew what coming out was.

I think that far from everyone knows, but I feel that if they asked then I wouldn't try to hide it.

I have had the great fortune to have been born into a loving family that is both supportive and pragmatic. When I came out to my mom I had been expecting her to make a fuss but it turned out to be the single most anticlimactic moment of my life (her response was: "okay, what do you want for dinner?") xD

I've also made a point of being out to all of my friends and they all accept me n_n

Well, the only people who know are my parents. I asked my Mom to tell my uncle (who is also gay), so he might know by now too. But I can't exactly say that I'm trying to hid it--it's just that I never talked to friends about sexuality before I realized I was gay and haven't changed that since. I keep trying to get around to telling them sometime though.

i'm out to my cousin and my sister. the people at queer collective know but theyre not friends or people i've seen more than 4 times in my life. i won't be telling anybody else soon. most, if not all, my family are homophobes. in my sisters words "they will hunt you down" if they find out im queer. every family get together we have there is a talk about how disgusting the gays(or faygs as my dad calls them. he cant say it right ) are and how we should be burnt and stuff. mum keeps telling me that she would die if i turned out gay. dad wanted to kick me out when i told him i supported gay rights. when they asked if i was i could honestly say i wasn't though. i'm not at all gay, im totally bisexual and arn't i happy i don't have to lie about it. yay for monosexism.

I'm insufficiently adept at deception to have ever really been in the closet. At first, I only told some people, but I never pretended to be straight. Most people found out when they saw me kiss a boy at school the first time, or else they heard all about it. I was coerced into telling my parents by someone who had been told by six people separately all in one day. They were unhappy, and seem to be pretending to have forgotten. I avoid the subject entirely so that I don't have to remind them, and they in turn avoid the subject now. But then out in public, it never even occurs to me that I could be hiding it. I've asked people before, and they've told me it's "really obvious" that I'm gay. Which usually perplexes me, because I don't think I act very gay. I act strangely, but I don't think it's related to my sexual orietation at all.

I am to variable degrees out about various parts of my identity/orientation in various contexts. I've been hurt too many times in the past to just be open with everyone I know.

I'm only out to three people: my boyfriend, my mother (though she questions whether bisexuality actually exists...), and a friend.

I'm out to people I trust when it comes to me wanting a penis.

I'm not sure how 'out' I am over my sexual orientation, though. If people ask, I tell them I'm bisexual (provided I don't fear retribution if I'm truthful) but I'm really more pansexual. Only my husband really knows I find gender benders sexy.

I'm out to anybody that asks me about that part of my life. I don't hide it from people, but I don't make a point of telling people either. Everybody important in my life knows.

Pretty much everyone in my life knows I'm trans-- keeping secrets is uncomfortable and way too much trouble, and being referred to by the wrong pronouns is pretty painful.

That being said, my dad still doesn't know (I'm working on figuring out the best way to tell him), nor does the kid I'm tutoring (because her dad would cut off the tutoring arrangements instantly if he knew). Other than that, though, pretty much all the important people in my life know.

I have never come out because i have never been in the closet.

I think people started suspecting i was bi/ crossdresser was when i was cute little 8yr old girl but told the teachers where to go when they tried to get me to play the flute, i wanted the trombone or barry sax and i dressed in boys clothes. It has just progressed since then. I have toyed around a little and played the girly straight girl or the butch lesbian and also played around with trans for a while before i have settled.

I don't go shouting from the roof tops but i am sure to look at me it is quite obvious.

I'm still hiding in the closet. In the last couple of weeks I realised I was gay and had been denieling that fact since I was 15. Only took 8 years to out myself to myself.

My immediate family knows, and some of my extended family knows. (One of them is gay.) As for the rest of the extended family, I'm not hiding it or showing it off. It just never comes up. I figure that most of them are smart enough to figure out what's going on when a 27 year old man has never had a girlfriend, but then again, I'm rather introverted and don't really have any friends either, so they might just think I'm a loser who can't get a girl.

As for those who don't know, I suspect that some of them might have a problem with it (one of them who knows bluntly told me that it made him uncomfortable), but I hardly ever see them, so I'm not worried about what they'll think if they find out. I have no obligation to have anything to do with anyone I don't want to have anything to do with. (Except my parents, who drive me insane on a daily basis, because I'm reliant upon them financially.)

As for other people, I'll keep it to myself if I hear someone making homophobic comments or something, but otherwise, I won't hide it if it comes up. On the internet, I won't hide it at all, even when homophobic asswipes are around.