Slightly confused on my sexuality

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I'm biologically male, want to be a woman, give birth, breastfeed, wear dresses (serious), yet I want to have a girlfriend, is there a term for my uncommon desires for motherliness and still want a wife?

Possibly transsexual or transgender.

Sexuality and gender identity (which could be considered separate) is on a spectrum, just like autism, so the feelings and desires you have, while uncommon, aren't "wrong" or "bad" in any way.

I am aware of several cases where people went from male to female while still being sexually attracted to girls. Some had the surgery, some simply stuck with hormone therapy.

It's not uncommon among transsexuals. This isn't scientific, but I recall a poll on one trams forum that showed about an equal portion of people being attracted to the same- and opposite- sex. One interesting thing is that some people's shift after transistion, though it doesn't seem to bother most people when it happens.

Yay for being technically being a romantic lesbian!

How does one go about hormone therapy?

You need to speak to a psychologist, possibly a psychiatrist, both of whom will need to make sure that you're sure this is the path you want to take.

The idea is that they want to be sure you don't harm yourself. You can get a referral from your family doctor.

Sexual and gender identity are completely separate things. There are many lesbian transwomen out there, and gay transmen.

You may never get your wish of having children, though scientific advancement is moving towards the possibility of uterus transplants in the future. Breastfeeding is very possible, it requires effort, but transwomen on hormones are capable of lactating.

If you feel the need to be a woman go out there and be a woman, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

You can do all that except give birth. What most Transsexuals do is first talk to Gender specialists and when they "approve" you can go for hormones. I think just about any surgery except SRS (Sex Reassignment Surgery) can be done without the approval of doctors but to take the final step you need to prove you really want it with a two year "test" where you present yourself as the gender you identify with. But don't take hormones lightly there are side effects and don't do it if you're not sure

Supposing I do become a girl, what are soothing ways to show affection to other girls?

It depends on the girl. Communicate with them and ask what they're comfortable with and try things.

Finding appropriate ways to show affection can be difficult regardless of the gender of either party. I have a tendency to show affection in rather bizarre ways (and enjoy receiving such).

Also, as much as I want to be a girl, there are some girls I love so much, I wish they could swallow me right up for a soothed feeling of being surrounded by them, is that normal despite being just a self-soothe thought?

I feel the same way with some people. I want that all consuming feeling and imagine it. It's not something that I'd like all the time though. I use it when I'm feeling down or have trouble sleeping. I think it's probably just romantic fantasy.

As for your other question. I'd start small, like holding hands. As someone who isn't particularly keen on touch. It'd completely freak me out if someone I didn't feel affection for just came out and kissed me. Which would probably make said person feel awful. If I was in the position of potential partner...If you sat by my side our thighs were touching or you took my hand and I didn't want that or like it. I'd just explain to you that it makes me uncomfortable, in the nicest way possible. However if it was okay, well then try a hug. Or you could just ask for a hug. People seem to be really into hugging each other, so...

Girls love oral sex. Your tongue on their clit but hugs and sweet words of love and devotion.

I personally would feel more loved, safe and relaxed snuggling all day next to a sweet lady's chest with a shush and being petted.