salem44dream wrote:
I'm not on this forum to prove any points. I supposed I could scroll back down through all the threads and tell you why I got that impression, but I'm not going to do that. Bigger battles to fight in my life. My comment was about some people didn't understand how someone who comes out in the setting of a martial arts academy would run into the problem of bullying.
Middle school is still the worst for stuff like that ... high school isn't always as bad, but the bullies simply learn to be more subtle about it. While I've never been to a martial arts academy, I can only imagine that must be worse.
Seems to me like that's precisely what you're in this forum for: to prove a point that nobody--not one person--has disagreed with.
In my view it is not enough to identify behaviour as bullying--it is also necessary to respond to bullying. But the response must take into account may factors: the severity of the bullying (which depends on context); the willingness of people in authority to support the victim of bullying; and most importantly, the willingness of the victim of bullying to take on his bullies.
The title of this thread was not, "Was I bullied?" The title of this thread is, "What now?" In my view, your contribution to the discussion hasn't advanced the question that the OP asked. We all recognize what happened to him as bullying. We all know how bad bullying can be. What we don't know are the context specific factors that let us give the OP advice upon how he can answer his own question.
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