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DeviousDani
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15 Oct 2013, 5:30 am

I am in a heterosexual relationship and have been for 2 years but even as a child I found females sexually attractive too...

I have been emotionally and sexually attracted to females before and kissed them but I have never seen myself in a lesbian relationship, or having a female partner.
But I want to marry a guy and be with a guy, am I straight, or what am I?



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15 Oct 2013, 7:12 am

DeviousDani wrote:
I am in a heterosexual relationship and have been for 2 years but even as a child I found females sexually attractive too...

I have been emotionally and sexually attracted to females before and kissed them but I have never seen myself in a lesbian relationship, or having a female partner.
But I want to marry a guy and be with a guy, am I straight, or what am I?


You're human. At least I hope you are. I mean you could be a bot script that posts stuff, but does anyone really know anyone, especially on the internet. But I digress.

Bisexual or Pansexual sounds more like it. If you are attracted to both male and female sex then at least bisexual. If you're attracted to more such as people themselves and not just the plumbing then pansexual.

It's really a spectrum, and you might be anywhere on it compared to anyone else. I wouldn't worry about putting any labels on it, unless you find that you need labels to sort and organize reality around you. I do, so I have less fear about labeling myself, but we're all different.


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15 Oct 2013, 8:06 am

stardraigh wrote:
DeviousDani wrote:
I am in a heterosexual relationship and have been for 2 years but even as a child I found females sexually attractive too...

I have been emotionally and sexually attracted to females before and kissed them but I have never seen myself in a lesbian relationship, or having a female partner.
But I want to marry a guy and be with a guy, am I straight, or what am I?


You're human. At least I hope you are. I mean you could be a bot script that posts stuff, but does anyone really know anyone, especially on the internet. But I digress.

Bisexual or Pansexual sounds more like it. If you are attracted to both male and female sex then at least bisexual. If you're attracted to more such as people themselves and not just the plumbing then pansexual.

It's really a spectrum, and you might be anywhere on it compared to anyone else. I wouldn't worry about putting any labels on it, unless you find that you need labels to sort and organize reality around you. I do, so I have less fear about labeling myself, but we're all different.


Thank you for your reply, that makes sense, I probably am a bit Bi inclined, I think I just lean more towards guys?
Can you lean more towards one sex, but like both and be bi?



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15 Oct 2013, 8:20 am

Yes.

You can be attracted to many attributes with varying degrees. Some more than others. For example within your male attraction, you aren't attracted to all males equally. Some more than others, and it's the same with females. You can then factor in other attributes such as skin color, body shape, height, build, health, nationality, culture, religion, personality, etc... and find that you may prefer somethings more than others.

It's literally to each their own. And you may find that it changes over time as you learn more, or encounter new things. That's just how it goes with attraction.


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16 Oct 2013, 4:20 am

stardraigh wrote:
Yes.

You can be attracted to many attributes with varying degrees. Some more than others. For example within your male attraction, you aren't attracted to all males equally. Some more than others, and it's the same with females. You can then factor in other attributes such as skin color, body shape, height, build, health, nationality, culture, religion, personality, etc... and find that you may prefer somethings more than others.

It's literally to each their own. And you may find that it changes over time as you learn more, or encounter new things. That's just how it goes with attraction.


Thanks for this knowledge! You were very helpful :)